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What kind of pain is it? If it is a dull ache of sorts that can just be your muscles accommodating and having a general ache due to them being used in such a manner. If the pain is more of a stinging sharp pain then it can be your skin actually tearing, this most often happens when there is a lack of lubrication. But if there is a burning or itching sensation then you could have an infection which could make any type of insertion hurt due to the inflammation, or if there is no infection but still the burning/itching you could have a sensitivity to the material. You can try a metal vibrator to see if it that helps with any potential sensitivity issues.What if it still hurts if you're taking the vibrator in slowly and squeezing to accomodate it? Should I stop or is it best to keep going with insertion?[I][COLOR="Purple"]There are those who believe that dictionaries should not merely reflect the times but also protect English from the mindless assaults of the trendy.[/COLOR][/I] -
I'm not a women, but I recommend to slow down or stop if it hurts. You mentioned in a couple of posts that you are squeezing to accommodate it. Why would you need to squeeze? If it is a large diameter (thick) vibrator, then you may need to take your time to accommodate the girth; otherwise, you should try inserting it without squeezing at first, just try to get comfortable with inserting it and enjoying the vibrations. Then after you are relaxed and really turned on, then you might try pulling it out slowly and so forth.Comment
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And use lube even if you are already self-lubricated.I'm not a women, but I recommend to slow down or stop if it hurts. You mentioned in a couple of posts that you are squeezing to accommodate it. Why would you need to squeeze? If it is a large diameter (thick) vibrator, then you may need to take your time to accommodate the girth; otherwise, you should try inserting it without squeezing at first, just try to get comfortable with inserting it and enjoying the vibrations. Then after you are relaxed and really turned on, then you might try pulling it out slowly and so forth.Comment
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It's a secret-The pain varies. It's unpredictable. I've experienced all of what you mentioned, lol. I don't have an OB GYN visit until late september, but I will mention this and see if there's anything else.
JonDoe-Thanks for the advice, but I also use lube...even with artificial lube, it's not always enough. The person I'm seeing right now is actually very wide, so the appearance is kind of intimidating. I want to enjoy it though."Dating is like slow dancing. Let the man lead, or you will fall all over your feet"Comment
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