[mandy47]

I am really interested in pegging. I haven't talked to my boyfriend about it, because I don't have the proper equipment, but I think it would make him a more sensitive lover...at least in the realm of anal sex and also just be an exciting new experience. I think if he had experienced being on the receiving end, especially for anal sex, it would help when we try anal with me receiving, which hasn't worked so well for us in the past.

[Phoebee]

i've honestly never heard of men likeing that unless they were bisexual.

Hi Jade:

Well its good you came here! Because now you can say you have heard of men who like pegging and are not Bisexual or gay. TRUST me. My DH is so NOT interested in male on male sex. ;-)

[Fire(m)]

I don't think that pegging would make a man a better lover. I think that communication would make a man a better lover, and him setting his priorities to please his woman...that would make him a better lover too!

In general, on the issue of pegging however, I would say that I would be interested in doing it, but I haven't ever done it before. My wife would undoubtedly not consider that in that she's pretty vanilla, but I don't have a problem with it.

I am a bit disturbed however by the number of respondents on this subject that are making this out to be some gay thing. That's insane! Like I said, I would consider the pegging thing, but there's nothing gay about me. Zero.

I think that whatever 2 people do in the course of consentual sexual relations is fine. While something may or may not be for me, I don't see there being anything taboo in the bedroom unless one of the 2 finds it taboo. Then it is off limits.

Cheers.

[Phoebee]

I don't think that pegging would make a man a better lover. I think that communication would make a man a better lover, and him setting his priorities to please his woman...that would make him a better lover too!

In general, on the issue of pegging however, I would say that I would be interested in doing it, but I haven't ever done it before. My wife would undoubtedly not consider that in that she's pretty vanilla, but I don't have a problem with it.

I am a bit disturbed however by the number of respondents on this subject that are making this out to be some gay thing. That's insane! Like I said, I would consider the pegging thing, but there's nothing gay about me. Zero.

I think that whatever 2 people do in the course of consentual sexual relations is fine. While something may or may not be for me, I don't see there being anything taboo in the bedroom unless one of the 2 finds it taboo. Then it is off limits.

Cheers.

I think I like you again Fire. ;-) DH told me that having it done to him did help him understand the reason why the receiver has to control things to get started. How important it is to use lots and lots of lube and how annoying it can be when things are getting so close to orgasm and it slips out. :-(

If your wife is ok with "adult" videos you might slip in one that has that activity in it and simply tell her that you think that looks interesting (or hot) I think a lot of women discount any male interest or don't even know about it. As I said before you do need to screen these. Some of the people making videos think pegging is about doing other things that are not on the same wavelength. We had one video where the male was into licking shoes?? Which btw I am not understanding at all except that its weird.

Anyway Good luck loosing your other virginity! ;-)

[Fire(m)]

Hehe Phoebee...I'm glad you may like me again! I won't push my luck though...ok? Since I'm on your good side, I'll tell you about a hint I gave my wife on this very subject.

One time my wife said she wondered what it would be like to have a penis. SOooo...I bought her a strap on! I thought EXCELLENT! So, she tried the strap on and loved it. She shook it, ran around the house with it and stuffed it in pants, and generally just had a great time with it. Evidently she liked it so much, she told her best friend about it.

I overheard a second or two of my wife's side of their phone conversation that evening. Evidently she had already told her friend about the strap on, and her friend must have suggested that she "use" it on me. All I heard my wife say was "Oh HECK NO! There's no way I'd even consider doing THAT to him!".

Oh well, it was funny as heck to watch her run around the house with the strap on! I laughed till my stomach hurt.

Cheers.

[gyrator53]

I think Phoebee's idea about the video is a good one and I agree entirely about the selection problem! I had some luck in being able to broach the subject with my dear wife. We happened to catch the end of a late night Channel 5 sex program (Ch 5 is the most adventurous of the UK's broadcasters but 10 years ago this was pushing the envelope even for them!). Anyway, it had, I think Carol Queen, of Bend over Boyfriend fame, pegging some guy who seemed to be enjoying the experience more than somewhat. I realised this was something I really, really wanted us to try. I didn't say anything at the time but the idea stayed with me and some weeks later, in a quiet moment, I finally plucked up enough courage to suggest it and to my great surprise she agreed.

[Phoebee]

I think Phoebee's idea about the video is a good one and I agree entirely about the selection problem! I had some luck in being able to broach the subject with my dear wife. We happened to catch the end of a late night Channel 5 sex program (Ch 5 is the most adventurous of the UK's broadcasters but 10 years ago this was pushing the envelope even for them!). Anyway, it had, I think Carol Queen, of Bend over Boyfriend fame, pegging some guy who seemed to be enjoying the experience more than somewhat. I realised this was something I really, really wanted us to try. I didn't say anything at the time but the idea stayed with me and some weeks later, in a quiet moment, I finally plucked up enough courage to suggest it and to my great surprise she agreed.

Ha! She has you right where you want her... ;-) The Bend over Boyfriend video is kind of a mixed thing. We watched that and as I said some of the scenes were great. Others were really fringe.

[Phoebee]

I overheard a second or two of my wife's side of their phone conversation that evening. Evidently she had already told her friend about the strap on, and her friend must have suggested that she "use" it on me. All I heard my wife say was "Oh HECK NO! There's no way I'd even consider doing THAT to him!".
Cheers.

Well I have to admit that was my reaction at first. We first bought a harness when DH was not dealing (in a medical way) with his ED/Impotence. Once he started wearing that to bed it "fixed" his erection problems. At least for me. ;-) Getting him to a doctor was so difficult but worth it. Having the harness "handy" just made it possible.

We talked about it and at first I was very uptight about it. He was also flip flopping on if he really wanted to do it. Lets just say that for my (our) personal "kink-o-meter" this is as far as I go. Anyway we did watch a few videos together. The better sex series had a chapter on male anal sex. It wasn't using a strap on *Just a small dildo. Anyway it talked about it being a new and different pleasure for the man and we started with that. Then with the strapon equipment just available and knowing anal sex did make DH go WOW... Well with the lights off we managed "barely" to get me into the harness. *Note put it on in the bathroom with the lights ON! Much less funny but safer.

Anyway, check it out. There is a lot of adult videos now that are just this type of thing. I'm not saying this is mainstream or that everyone should do it. I think for us its once a month (maybe) but its very good when we do!

[owlhunter]

So, she tried the strap on and loved it. She shook it, ran around the house with it and stuffed it in pants, and generally just had a great time with it.

My lady did the same thing - but she has to be drunk to do it. But she does not stop with just playing with it - she uses it. And she thinks lub is a waste of time!

We watched Bend Over B... and thought it was pretty gross. Not our type of pegging.

Pheobee - those cold Minn winters must have an effect on you and DH. DH sounds cool. Tell him I too have ED problems. Problem is in my head which is a to fix. however, my lady is VERY understanding and we always find a way to have fun. It is an annoyance, and yes it does bother me, actually it bothers me more than her.

I have to laugh at the comments where a guy wouldn't ever THINK of it. I don't mean they should want to try it, or enjoy it, but the reason to not even try is becuase of issues they have.

Plus, if my lady wants to try something I'm pretty willing to be very accomodating. We have a few things that are off limits, but other than those, hey, give it a try. We have tried one thing we didn't like and stopped rather quickly. Have tried others that weren't worth the effort to do them again. And some were great finds - like pegging and fisting. Others we are still experimenting with.

It is all down to trust and communication. Two very difficult things and they need to be worked on constantly. We realise we will always have a long way to go. But the journey can be very pleasent and interesting.

[Phoebee]

Hi Owlhunter:

Be very very careful about doing any kind of anal penetration when drunk and or without lube. You can really hurt yourself badly. Making pegging more mainstream in your sex life will probably make it possible for her to not need to get drunk to do it. I hope so!

In the meantime you might want to have her be on the bottom with you on top so you can control the penetration. And if she is not willing or able to add lubrication I strongly urge you to lube yourself and the dildo before it comes near you. Adding a lubricated condom to the dildo helps with any potential clean up and will help ease it in you.

Yes I agree. Set limits and be willing to accept that your partner may not find ______ as exciting or erotic as you do. We don't do fisting for example or oral/anal of any kind and probably never will. We don't have any desire to include others in the bedroom and we like the lights off! So other then pegging I guess we are pretty dull. Anyway thanks for the message. Good luck in getting your wife to try this sober.

PS tell her to put the Hitachi vibe behind the dildos base. I don't need it to climax *Rubbing against the base can get me off but with the Hitachi is a "for sure" thing and DH loves the feeling of it vibrating against his prostate etc.