How Often Do Lesbian Couples Have Sex?

Lesbians report having sex less frequently compared to their heterosexual counterparts but are 98% more likely to reach orgasm with their partner.
split screen image featuring a bar graph depicting the frequency of sex among lesbian women with 2.44% reporting that they have sex once per day, 14.56% reporting that they have sex once per week, and 8,72% reporting that they have sex once per month on the left, with a photograph of two women kissing one another during a gay pride parade on the right
Updated:November 2023

Lesbians are 43% less likely to have sex at least once per week compared to heterosexual women — but their odds of having an orgasm with their sexual partners are 98% higher compared to heterosexual women. [3]

Key Statistics To Know:

  • Among lesbians in a monogamous relationship, 35.6% report having sex multiple times per week while only 3.44% report having sex once per day. [2]
  • About 11% of lesbians report “never” having sex more than twice per week. [1]
  • 86% of women who have sex with other women (WSW) report being “happy” or “ecstatic” in their present relationship. [2]
  • One meta-analysis found that the odds of a lesbian woman having an orgasm with her partner were 98% higher compared to a heterosexual woman. [3]
  • That same study found that the odds of lesbians reporting “no or rarely” having orgasms with their partner was 45% lower than heterosexual women. [3]

In this article, we’ll explore how frequently lesbians have sex, their likelihood of reaching orgasm with a same-sex partner, and their self-reported level of happiness within their relationships.

How Often Lesbian Women Have Sex (In General)

bar graph depicting that among queer women who have sex with other women, 1.25% report having sex more than once per day; 2.44% report having sex once per day; 28.78% report having sex multiple times per week; 14.56% report having sex once per week; 22.88% report having sex multiple times per month; and 8.72% report having sex once per month
  • One 2023 meta-analysis (a study analyzing multiple previously published studies) found that the odds of a lesbian woman in a relationship having an orgasm were 98% higher compared to a heterosexual woman, and the odds of a lesbian woman reporting “no or rarely” having orgasms were 45% lower compared to a heterosexual woman. Lesbians were also 43% less likely than heterosexual women to have sex at least once per week. [3]
  • Among women who have sex with other women (WSW), 1.25% report having sex more than once per day, despite 15.2% desiring sex at that frequency. [2]
  • Among women who have sex with other women, 2.44% report having sex once per day, although 20.66% report desiring sex at that frequency. [2]
  • Among WSW, 28.78% report having sex multiple times per week, while 51.89% report desiring sex at that frequency. [2]
  • 14.56% of women who have sex with other women report having sex once per week, although only 7.11% report desiring sex at that exact frequency. [2]
  • Among WSW, 22.88% report having sex multiple times per month, although just 3.72% report desiring sex at that same frequency. [2]
  • 8.72% of women who have sex with other women report having sex once per month. Only 0.58% of queer WSW report desiring sex at that frequency. [2]
  • 21.37% of WSW report having sex less than once per month and only 0.84% report desiring sex at that frequency. [2]

Research on lesbians consistently finds that the quality of sex is rated higher than women in heterosexual relationships, though the sex may occur less often.

While sexual desire varies from person to person, stats demonstrate that smaller percentages wish to have sex just weekly, monthly, or even less.

“Desire discrepancies” occur when partners desire sex at different frequencies and are common issues in relationships among any sexual orientation.

Sex Frequency Among Lesbian Couples In A Relationship

bar graph on how often lesbians have sex, depicting that among females in a same-sex relationship who were asked how often they engage in sex more than 2 times per week, about 11% said never, about 24% said hardly ever, about 30% said occasionally, about 25% said usually, and about 10% said always
  • Among women who have sex with other women and are coupled in a monogamous relationship, 1.69% report having sex more than once per day, 3.44% report having sex once per day, 35.6% report having sex multiple times per week, 17.61% report having sex once per week, 24.3% report having sex multiple times per month, 8.57% report having sex once per month, and 8.8% report having sex less than once per month. [2]
  • When lesbians were asked how often they had sex more than 2 times per week [1]:
    • About 11% reported “never”
    • About 24% reported “hardly ever”
    • About 30% reported “occasionally”
    • About 25% reported “usually”
    • About 10% reported “always”
  • One survey found that 86% of women who have sex with other women (WSW) report being “happy” or “ecstatic” in their present relationship. [2]

Our research also found that lesbian Americans give oral sex 4.57 times per month.

Couples of all sexual orientations vary in the frequency with which they have sex.

Lesbians tend to report sex less often than gay men and heterosexual couples, though they also tend to be quite happy!

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