[CHANDLERS WISH]

Cut and Paste, Cut and Paste

WC
It's not so much being hard to get as being independant and not clingy

HD
don't read to much into things that likely don't mean a thing but that he's busy.

SP? Sourpuss
....it's only Tuesday...let the man breath

Sourpuss
You're treading the 'clingy' waters here Ace.

Um, you

what if...after a week, he doesnt talk to me at allll????

You are allowed to show interest, I mean if you don't then obviously the other person, well thinks, your not interested in them...

But, read above, it's only Tuesday/Wednesday and you've already spoken to him, since.

If he doesn't contact you again, after a week, or even 2 weeks, then you hold your head up and as you have found, so shall you again.... move on.

People contact, and ask out and write, and talk cause they want to , to that person.

Let the man be a man.... and contact you next...

And, you know exactly what I mean about the nickers, haha, for now.

grrr.

pfttt.

CW

[Hopeless Dork]

i don't think you should play hard to get.. or play any games if thats not how you are is silly to become someone you are not - guys want the real you! Just... be... a more.. toned down version of yourself hehe. Let it be a volleyball match for a little while... you call him - let him call you next - then you call - then let him etc etc etc.. this shows your interest without seeming all fatal attractiony.

When a guy is interested he will call or make plans to see you so relax and keep telling yourself that. If you have called and left a message or something.. he got it.. and if he hasnt called you back (speaking in general now, not about your specific case) he either can't or doesn't want to. If he can't.. is busy etc. but wants to and is thinking he will call when things settle down - and you KEEP calling and saying lets do something lets do something.. it can feel pressuring and possibly turn them off.. and if they just don't want to call back.. calling over and over isn't going to change that.

When I first started dating my bf, Oh acer did I go through this I had such an instant crush on him - couldn't get him out of my head and wanted to see him all the time. If I'd innitiate a date, a call, a text, email or some kind of meet up and he didn't respond - I had to to sit on my hands and duct tape my mouth shut (almost literally lol) to not call again - I forced myself to just wait and let him make the next move - I'd already shown my interest now was his turn.

In my head I would think oh just call ... you want to see him don't you? call.. maybe you can!!! But then I had to remind myself it can't all be about me and how much I want to see him... he has to want to as well! And since I already said I wanted to do something... or called or made some kind of contact - he should have no doubt that I am interested and will get back to me if he feels the same way. Thank GOD he did and I just continued with the fair exchange volley now we have been together so long I just call and see him whenever I want and he does the same - takes time to get to the point you can do that though..

so just give yourself time sweetie!! Let him get in touch with you and busy your brain with other things!! But don't don't compromise who you are and subscribe to some silly notion of 'rules' or any of that rubbish.. The volley thing isn't really a rule its just an unsaid compromise / interest gauge.

[happy ending]

sounds like you are having a lot of fun girl, and remember sometimes the journey is more fun than the destination LOL!!

[acerousme]

....did I ever tell you all JUST HOW MUCH I appreciate you?

seriously...without you all....my water would be soil, instead of murky....

[acerousme]

HAHAHAHAHA....Im back in the game!!!

[WildChild]

Good for you darlin'. Just keep it fun and juicy. (and safe - make good choices)

[acerousme]

hahaha....IM SO HAPPY. Ohhh, I will for SURE keep it fun and juicy....WHILST being safe...I was only unsafe once...I swear, and LITTLE jumped on my case pretty fast (I love youuu) lol.