[Ahryin]

Exactly but that doesn't mean you have to act on that knowledge...we are GROWN right?

[WildChild]

Absolutely, knowing that the attraction is there doesn't mean it will ever come to fruition or that it will be any good if it does. I have had a couple cases where the initial attraction wasn't there (because my attraction was engaged elsewhere) but did blossom later with good results.

[Guest]

I don't do anything on a first date. Actually, I don't even believe in dating; I'm more of a courtship person. :/

[Ahryin]

What makes courtship different from dating?

[Guest]

Lemme find a quote from a website to give you:

Courting: Courtship takes the position that the two people have no physical contact at all (no touching, no hand-holding, no kissing) until marriage. Many in a courtship relationship will not spend any time together unless family members, preferably parents, are present at all times. In addition, courting couples state up front that their intentions are to see if the other person is a suitable potential marriage partner. Courtship advocates claim that courtship allows for the two people to truly get to know each other in a more platonic setting without the pressures of physical intimacy or emotions clouding their view.

Dating would kinda be the opposite.

[Guest]

I met my husband on a dating site we had been talking to each other about 10 days before we met, via the site we joined and also on the phone/text messages and via Msn, by the time i met him i felt i knew him really well and him me and yes we had sex on our first day, it wasnt planned it just happened as i wanted him and he wanted me it was the first time i had ever done this on a first date but in november we will have been married 2 years

[Ahryin]

Ok well my update to this is that the guy hasn't called my friend...or returned her phone calls.
She is upset with me because I guess I was to truthful and called a spade a spade....

He HAS however text her with some excuse as to why he hasn't called her or answered any of her phone calls. She recognizes he is playing games. She has however met another guy and is taking it slow with him

[kira]

I don't believe in dating either. I believe in hanging out and having sex if I feel like it and I don't get any bad signals from the guy. Sex can be just sex to me. I don't care. I actually can't even place how many "dates" my fiance and I had. We talked online, I went over to his place to get some help with homework, we saw each other a few more times, and somewhere in there ended up in bed without even having kissed first. Then we just kinda never left my bed and a few months later his stuff took over my house.

Really the only reason I never went for one night stands or sex on the first date was not that I thought I'd lose anything or it was wrong to have sex like that but more trust issues. I'm not going to be that open with someone I don't know anything about. We are adults we can decide each for ourselves what we find acceptable or not. So long as someone considers the consequences and makes the choice they feel is right I'm not going to find them wrong. If you aren't prepared for nothing to come of it and the risk someone is lying then you shouldn't have sex on the first date. If you don't care then I see little reason why not. Just so long as you acknowledge and accept what the results could be.

[GlassDaemon]

I'm sorry in advance, I do not mean to offend anyone or start an argument, but this is just so many levels of NO for me. It is not an option, it is not up for discussion, it is not a debate, it is just no... no, no and more no. My only exception is if it's casual sex, which then there isn't really a date, you might even know the person prior, or maybe you're just hooking up to fulfill some kinks you both share(not exactly a safe idea in my book). But as far as I'm concerned dating - to me - means you're looking for someone special, dating is the game where you look for your eternal love, it's not for casual ****ing, that's a different game entirely.

I'm sorry, I find it disgusting, no wonder chivalry is dying when we have skanks who can't keep their legs closed for even a couple weeks anymore. Have some self respect, buy a flippin vibrator if you need it so bad.

I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm so sorry, that is mean, but I just cannot express how much that just makes me seethe with anger. It's no surprise that guys want it the first month from me when I'm competing with that.

[Texinator]

It's no surprise that guys want it the first month from me when I'm competing with that.

Those guys would want it in the first month anyway. Someone who wants sex as early as possible isn't going to change their opinion if having sex on the first or second date is not an option, and someone who feels more comfortable with waiting isn't going to change their mind if it is an option.

It's a simple compatibility issue then.