[ItsASecret]

If I am going to be honest...

Superficial:

- Cares enough about his body that he does not end up with health issues. This means I do not want a smoker because wrinkles, a poor respiratory system causing extreme hacking coughs, and abnormal skin color due to toxins is completely unattractive. Excessive alcohol use, including party boys, also a no-no because I am not giving you a portion of my liver when you end up poisoning your own due to "having a good time". Same applies to guys who could care less about what they eat and end up gaining too many pounds. If you know what you are eating is causing a problem then stop it.

- Is not at all a body builder or has a cocky attitude about his body. Sorry chump but it looks like I can deflate your muscles with pin prick then you are unattractive.

- Nice hair. I like the just out of bed with a tiny bit of gel to hold it in place look. Long hair no thanks. Bald can work depending on the guy.

- Yes I expect him to shower and shave. A bit of man stubble on the face is not all that bad, just do not make it look like you have not been out of the woods for a couple weeks. Also if he is a jungle down below then I am not going to do anything to him. To me pubes ending up in the mouth are an awful experience no matter what anyone says.

- Finances. He is going to be paying half the bills no matter what. I do not care if he is a garbage man making 20k a year...he is still going to be responsible for helping to pay for things just as any mature person would do. It means a lot to me that he wants to and can provide for the relationship and does not think he is going to get a free ride if I am the one making more money.

Non - superficial:

- Funny of course. I like comedy so if he can laugh at the same things I do then it is a major plus.

- Education. I would prefer he is going to school because it shows me that he has aspirations and at least some sort of goal in life. Not so much a fan of the "my dad is giving me a big inheritance so I do not have to work"...or the "school sucks, lets go party!!" mentality.

- Intellect. I would prefer that he has an interest in science so that we can have a conversation together and actually understand those big words.

[cocoa]

I don't think it's quite so easy to categorize the qualities like that. For example, many women will notice your sense of humor right away while not giving much importance to your financial stability.

Yep. Sometimes, other qualities can make up for not being financially stable, but it helps if the person is at least goal oriented or working towards financial stability.

[Jayla2251]

I think that it also depends on the person your looking for. It finance is very important to you I guess that'd be a first up thing. But, personally, I never looked at money, and never will. My parents are very well off, but do they sleep in the same room? No. Do they enjoy eachothers company? No. Is their relationship messed up, YES!