[thats56]

I'm 28, she's 27. Been together for 4 months. About a month and a half ago. We we're having sex on the floor. She likes it fast and hard, as do I. After wards, we both found out maybe we did it waayyy to fast and hard.

Since then, almost every time we have sex, she says it hurts. I caress her, kiss her all over her body, fondle her gently. All kinds of things to get her in the mood. As of recently, she hasn't been responding to this, she just kind of sits their, as if shes not getting in to it.

A couple of weeks after our floor incident, she went to her Dr. He said take it easy, and so on. She also bought some type of...IDK...'vagina better gel', because the Dr said their is a small abrasion inside. oh yeah, after she went to the Dr, we waited 5 days to have sex.

My comment/question is; it seems like she's not into me anymore because of this. I told her she should be doing other stuff instead of intercourse. What should I do, I feel like she doesn't have the courage to break up with me, so she's slowly pushing me away so I can do it.

Is their something we can buy to make this abrasion go away? Neosporin? I will break up with her before I cheat, that's not an option. Maybe she's having sex with someone else. IDK...

[jns]

I think you were not properly concerned about her condition and she is wondering if she wants to go on with someone so selfish. That is not to say you were selfish, only she is perceiving it that way. Try a lot of sorrys, mea culpas, flowers, chocolates, what ever it takes to have her open up to you again. Take a hiatus from sex to let her heal. Make sure you have her know you are doing it because you care about her and you thought about it, so this is you trying to get back on track with her. Start very slowly when you start again.

[thats56]

Thanks for replying. Do you have any solutions besides time? Something we can put inside of there?

[jns]

You misunderstand me. Time will heal the flesh. Your disregard of her feelings and not emphasizing with her is your biggest problem and putting anything inside there will not fix it. Women think very differently than men. That is why we love them. You have to learn how a woman thinks if you want to be the best person for her that you can be.

[p3375]

thats56:
I think jns gave ya some very good advice there!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

jns is being gentle....

Stop worrying about when you can have sex again, and worry about her...

You hurt her, cut her, inside . It needs time to heal, simply put, nothing can help, other than time..

If you have any feelings for her, feel for what occured and be gentle, try different positions, when she has healed and love her..

Women are not sex objects.

CW

[Guest]

Thanks for replying. Do you have any solutions besides time? Something we can put inside of there?

Good lord, it sounds like your only concern is for yourself, let the girl heal, and then take it easy..

[Hopeless Dork]

Thanks for replying. Do you have any solutions besides time? Something we can put inside of there?

Okay lets see here... you are saying she is injured and needs time to heal, but you don't want to give her time to heal you are looking to put 'something in there' who cares what... neosporin? Seriously? If you got your penis caught in a zipper and it was ripped and it needed 2 weeks to heal and sex was PAINFUL, how would you feel if your gf was like oh just put some athletes foot medication on it and suck it up!!

You are asking what is wrong with your gf... she has a vaginal injury, she needs time to heal... and if she is being distant its probably because you are more concerned with her vagina healing for you to have sex with it... than it healing so that she feels better. Her vagina is attached to her body, you are treating it like some seperate entity that if you can just put some toothache cream on it , it'll make it all better and she can let you sex her again. Wrong, and Wrong.

Thats like if you got your arm injured at work and were in severe pain and rather than her wondering if you are okay she is only concerned with when you can get back to work to make some money for her... Seriously, would you feel cared about?

[thats56]

Sound like a bunch of old bitter broads, I like it though

Apologizing to my girl is what I've been doing all weekend. Things are much better now. My whole point was that she didn't even want to give me a hand job, or anything sexual with me. Everyone responding seems to forget that she is my only source for having sex. Either way, we had a long conversation about and everything is better. We even had sex. Used lots of lube. It felt great, I poured half the bottle on my throbbing member, she loved it. She climbed on top, WOW. Too much information? My apologies.

I like this board. I will be back. I will be answering questions that you females have. And their will be no sugar coating.

Thanks for all the responses.

[jns]

Sound like a bunch of old bitter broads, I like it though

Women think very differently than men. That is why we love them.

I should know I have to be explicit with guys. I'm a guy. And you get a variety of responses on topics here, young, old, in between, female, male, straight, gay, different nationalities, etc.