[kevin32]

Okay ladies, here's the scenario: You're single and shopping at the store. A handsome man approaches you and tells you he finds you incredibly sexy and he would love to do naughty things with you behind closed doors. He's not looking for a monogamous relationship, only casual sex. You notice that he's very direct and confident in expressing how he feels and what he wants. Would you entertain having casual sex with him within a day or two of meeting him? Or would you need to go on a few dates with him first?

The reason I'm asking is because I want to attract women for casual sex, without having to go on alot of dates and "getting to know each other" for days or weeks before sex. I'd like to meet a woman, and within the first few minutes of talking with her, let her know upfront and honestly that I'm attracted to her and that I want to have casual sex. So I would like to know what can I do to make a woman feel comfortable with the idea of casual sex without having to do the traditional dating thing. Thanks.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well, honestly, we would think "what are we a sex object?"..

Sorry that wouldn't work with me, men work their charms and obtain what they want unfortunately often at our expense, if that's what your after, go to clubs that are aimed at, just after sex, no relationship or hire someone...

I may find it flattering even, that you find me attractive, forget age, men do But, to catch a woman who only wants sex in a supermarket? Prepared to be sworn at or slapped in my opinion...

Your barking up the wrong tree.

CW

[kevin32]

I see your point CW. I appreciate women and think they are the most beautiful creatures on earth. And I also feel that there are women who don't need a monogamous relationship in order to have a sex life. I'm simply looking for ways to communicate those same interests without having her feel like a or for doing so.

[kevin32]

...without having her feel like a wh*re or sl*t for doing so.

[WildChild]

Certainly there are women who are looking for the same thing you are. They essentially want a living dildo and there plenty of men willing to play that role. But especially in this day and age I think you will need to first establish some sense of connection and trust.

Not wanting or needing a monogamous sex life and accepting an invitation for sex within minutes or hours of meeting someone are two different things. I know quite a few people who have very open relationships but they require a fairly high degree of trust between each other and with any outside sexual partners. Safe sex both in terms of STIs and personal safety is paramount.

[ItsASecret]

Eh...at a grocery store or on the street straight up asking can we bang is creepy. The second you say "you look hot mama!" or something along those lines you can bet she is telling herself "here we go again he just wants in my pants". Yes there are women who are not interested in a relationship and do want a quick sexual encounter without even asking a name but to be honest finding that while walking down the sidewalk or as she is shopping for clothes is not the best way to go. If you are wanting no strings attached sex with random women in possible multiple numbers in a short period of time then hit up a club. You can be horny there because starting with dancing there is essentially having sex with people on the dance floor, then you can ask the lady to go back to your place. The main point to a lot of those places is to get a hook up every single night. Countless women are looking for that there so it should not be an issue to strike up a conversation with a drink in hand to the closest gal pal (who does not have a boyfriend close by). But like WC said you need to watch for STDs, they are absolutely rampant in men and women in public situations like clubs so be careful.

[PandaPaws]

Eh...at a grocery store or on the street straight up asking can we bang is creepy. The second you say "you look hot mama!" or something along those lines you can bet she is telling herself "here we go again he just wants in my pants". Yes there are women who are not interested in a relationship and do want a quick sexual encounter without even asking a name but to be honest finding that while walking down the sidewalk or as she is shopping for clothes is not the best way to go. If you are wanting no strings attached sex with random women in possible multiple numbers in a short period of time then hit up a club. You can be horny there because starting with dancing there is essentially having sex with people on the dance floor, then you can ask the lady to go back to your place. The main point to a lot of those places is to get a hook up every single night. Countless women are looking for that there so it should not be an issue to strike up a conversation with a drink in hand to the closest gal pal (who does not have a boyfriend close by). But like WC said you need to watch for STDs, they are absolutely rampant in men and women in public situations like clubs so be careful.

I agree. If you're looking for that, go to a club. Look for the girls with their boobs hanging out and really short, tight skirts...
If someone came up to me and said that, I might be a little bit flattered, but mostly creeped out. Actually, I have had random guys hit on me in the grocery store, now that I think of it. Two different times - and one would not give up. I just kept walking, faster, and ignoring him as he kept trying.

[the wench]

i think most women would be put off by that kind of approach while shopping...i would anyway lol....you should try websites that specifically cater for your kind of needs......im sure there will be 1 out there somewhere with ladies who are just after the same simplicity of casualness

[Hopeless Dork]

Casual sex takes chemistry... so I think its a secrets idea of going to a club is the best idea for casual one night sex... most people are there for the same thing. Going up cold to a woman at a store... its a turn off for me. I've had guys approach me as I'm putting groceries in my trunk AT NIGHT... and have on more than one occasion literally SCREAMED the second they spoke behind my back :\ its not cool, its downright terrifying. If you make eyes at a woman in the store and she returns them keep something in mind... a lot of attached women still like attention and may flirt and grin and appreciate your quick little peice of attention, but will turn cold on your approach as they are not looking for something other than that little flirt.

You'd have much more 'luck' with what your looking for in bars and nightclubs... and yes... you know what they say about those , you kinda get what you pay for on that. There are women looking for casual sex, but they usually don't have to look very far and wide for it and can pretty much have their pick of the litter on that front.

The majority of women are not looking to simply provide a hole for some guy promising he can go down on her like a cherry pie... who cares, any guy can... so you have to be charming, funny, attractive, assertive to usually be able to persuade or have a woman inniciate with you... a casual encounter.

There are women that will have sex with 0 committment, 0 hope of commitment, and 0 % charming and effort on your part... but they will cost you money... as generally only prostitutes provide such a service.

[Awoman2]

Kevin, if you're upfront about your intentions, I am sure you will run into women of like mind. Just don't think that every woman you find sexy and want to have a casual encounter with will be interested.