[Tiffany1977]

My boyfriend of 7 years broke up with me two weeks ago. What hurts most is not the fact that he broke up with me, but that I've shared so much of myself intimately with this man. I trusted him, something that was difficult to come by 7 years ago - considering my past. [We won't go in to that]

To make a long story short, I need help. My best friend thought she was doing me a favor by buying me Beatrice McClearn's new book entitled Diaries of an Emotional Prostitute. In reality, I cried after reading the novel and it put me further in a slump!! Ladies, I realized that I was an emotional wreck and in the midst of trusting my boyfriend, I've become an emotional prostitute myself. I find it difficult to fulfill myself these days and so I've slept with 4 guys (in two weeks) to shake this unfulfilling sensation. I know that's wrong...please don't judge.

How could this have happened? I had no idea that I would feel this way. A part of me hates my best friend for buying the book; just as much as I hate my ex. But the other side of me just wants to move on and past this. Is there anyone that can help me? I'm sure this thread is all over the place - just like my heart. Any coping mechanisms would be of great benefit to me.

Thank you ladies for your attention!

[WishList]

What is an emotional prostitute?

I don't really see anything wrong here......then again I'm not really sure what you are talking about here either....:/

[sourpuss]

spammer me thinks...we'll see.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Tiffany,

You have to realise that you gave and trusted because that is what constitutes a relationship...

You can't walk into any relationship and hide, lie, and not be yourself can you?

7 years is a long time, certainly so something was there or it wouldn't have lasted that long.. However, we in-deed go through many relationships in life before we find one that seems to fit like a glove, two people moulded as one, souls connecting...

If you had found that, you would still be with him, him you...

However, not knowing your past doesn't matter what matters is that you haven't closed that door, it's still in your mind and more than likely still played a role in this past relationship, you have grown, you allowed this man to enter your life more than anyone else had, you had trusted him, having been hurt in your past.

You sleep with people after a break up through anger, and you have no feelings, don't care, just do... But, that's not the answer ....

If your emotions are too over the place, if your past still haunts you, if you hate your ex that you spent 7 years with, if you suffer from being mad and are trying to get even with sleeping with others then you need help...

We can't do things alone in this world until we are strong enough to do so and even then we still sometimes need guidance.

I do not know the contents of the book "link deleted" but any person who writes a book and refers to a woman being a prostitute in the context of emotions has to be a negative read in my opinion....

The books you need to read are more on loving yourself and finding yourself...

CW

[CHANDLERS WISH]

spammer me thinks...we'll see.

haha, strange way to ask to buy a book when you say you "hated it". I know, I know curiousity killed the cat

I answered anyway, as I do

[Tiffany1977]

???

spammer me thinks...we'll see.

SPAMMER? Hmmm. Okay what would I spam about? The fact that my boyfriend left me? The fact that my best friend bought me a book - that reminded me of my terrible past? The fact that I'm distraught and sought a WOMEN'S GROUP for advice?

[Tiffany1977]

Thank you Tiffany. I do need help. Writing is my only outlet (it's always been). I do feel sort of silly for pouring my emotions out on this lately, but it's been sort of difficult for me to deal with. I appreciate your kind words as they have helped with coping. I pressume that I will get over this sooner or later, but for now I'm venting as loud as I can. Forgive me.

[WildChild]

It takes time to work through a break up. Nothing wrong with sharing time with a few men, just be safe about it. It's part of your healing. You've had a 'down' book, how about spending some time watching funny movies and reading some funny books?
I have a great one for you, you really should read this one, it will lift your spirits and your attitude: Kiss My Tiara.

[Hopeless Dork]

Your turning to sex with men to try to fill the emotional void thats developed by your relationship ending. Its not uncommon. Some turn to drink, some food, some sleep all day, some try to get back up on the bicycle too soon and think the more guys they sleep with ... the more they will distance themselves from the feelings they still have for their ex... as you found, it doesn't work... none of those things above do.

You know what does work? Time. And its the only thing. The more time that passes the more your heart will heal... rather than inflict more pain on yourself... you should try to find a way to pass the healing time that is healthy and beneficial. Join a gym, take a class you always wanted to take, go visit an old friend or family member, volunteer to help people going through bigger crisis than yourself.

Keep yourself BUSY. Try not to have an idle mind... and stay away from relationship books for now, those are good and healthy to read and introspection is good... but sometimes you just need time to focus on yourself. Now self help books , fine, if you like those read those... bettering yourself and expanding your knowledge is always a good thing... but I think after just getting over a break up... immersing yourself in information about what you should or shouldn't do in a relationship is just putting too much focus on that stuff... and right now your focus should be on you.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Tiffany, you know? When you join there is a thing called FAQ rules, in that, it clearly states no outbound links and you have to realise that as such, it's possible to think that if someone does, they are trying to sell something

I answered you, as I felt something there, real... other's have as well... Yes, I made a joke as well because until someone comes back and tells us no I am not, it's always a possibility..

It bothers me that your past is hurting you, it's very evident and your bringing that into your present....

You know this is anonymous , this Forum why not tell us a bit more so we can understand you more and help you more....

Love really does hurt, it really does but a person staying that long, if it was happy it means that your finding better for you in your life...

How can I tell you to see the positives when things look so dark...

CW