So my boyfriend of 5 years and I had a Christmas party not too long ago. A week or so later I was on his computer trying to upload photos of that evening to my friends. While looking through the photo program I found two photos that shocked me. One of which was a girl who was topless taking a photo of herself in the mirror (dated about 6 months ago). The other was a graphic booty photo that was meant to be sexually appealing (dated about a year ago). I'm not sure if they are the same girl. I searched to find out when this was taken and just get some background info on my photo before I approached him.
The photo of the girl was emailed to himself. It was created during our relationship. The other was emailed to him by what seems like a girl. The name that it was emailed from sounded similar to a coworkers' name (which I have heard, but never met or seen). His coworkers are aware that we are in a relationship and it was not until recently where I met many of them at a wedding (she was not present). The company he works for hosts Christmas parties and he has never invited me or gone for that matter. It makes me wonder why.
So I approached him with photos and asked him to explain the photos and who they were and where they came from and why they were created when during our relationship. (computers are funny, they don't always carry the same info of the photo, instead they show the date it was either downloaded or uploaded. so I am not certain that they were taken during our relationship) As for the other photo, why would someone email a photo like that to a man they would know is in a relationship. There was nothing funny about it, it was meant to be sexually appealing.
Now when I asked him he said that they were old photos and that he has had a past too. As far as the dates go he recently sold his computer and had to dump all of the data so that is why the date is very recent. As far as the emailed photo from someone at work, it was meant to be a joke and being a man he receives stuff like that all the time.
I am very upset. I don't know what to think and what to believe. I asked him to show me other documents which he dumped from the old computer which showed the same date. He pretending like he was looking. He then responded with I am with you all the time when do I have time to cheat on you or see someone else.
I don't know what to believe. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, but I am not feeling comfortable at this point knowing and cant stop comparing myself with these other women. I feel like I am not turning him on and that I am just the girl who gets to be introduced to family and spend time with them, but behind closed doors and at strange hours his head may be elsewhere.
I need help. We have talked about wedding plans for a long time and I recently told my father about our marriage steps. I feel like chopped liver. I am not unattractive either, but I feel like I'm not like the steretypical promiscuous girl that men love to look at.
ugh. I havent slept for days even though I forgave him because his reasoning was plausible and I don't want the relationship to end. But now, what?
sorry so long.
The photo of the girl was emailed to himself. It was created during our relationship. The other was emailed to him by what seems like a girl. The name that it was emailed from sounded similar to a coworkers' name (which I have heard, but never met or seen). His coworkers are aware that we are in a relationship and it was not until recently where I met many of them at a wedding (she was not present). The company he works for hosts Christmas parties and he has never invited me or gone for that matter. It makes me wonder why.
So I approached him with photos and asked him to explain the photos and who they were and where they came from and why they were created when during our relationship. (computers are funny, they don't always carry the same info of the photo, instead they show the date it was either downloaded or uploaded. so I am not certain that they were taken during our relationship) As for the other photo, why would someone email a photo like that to a man they would know is in a relationship. There was nothing funny about it, it was meant to be sexually appealing.
Now when I asked him he said that they were old photos and that he has had a past too. As far as the dates go he recently sold his computer and had to dump all of the data so that is why the date is very recent. As far as the emailed photo from someone at work, it was meant to be a joke and being a man he receives stuff like that all the time.
I am very upset. I don't know what to think and what to believe. I asked him to show me other documents which he dumped from the old computer which showed the same date. He pretending like he was looking. He then responded with I am with you all the time when do I have time to cheat on you or see someone else.
I don't know what to believe. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, but I am not feeling comfortable at this point knowing and cant stop comparing myself with these other women. I feel like I am not turning him on and that I am just the girl who gets to be introduced to family and spend time with them, but behind closed doors and at strange hours his head may be elsewhere.
I need help. We have talked about wedding plans for a long time and I recently told my father about our marriage steps. I feel like chopped liver. I am not unattractive either, but I feel like I'm not like the steretypical promiscuous girl that men love to look at.
ugh. I havent slept for days even though I forgave him because his reasoning was plausible and I don't want the relationship to end. But now, what?
sorry so long.
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