[Guest]

I d on't think you are being too nice but you don't need to bare all so to speak right off the bat or ever. Why haven't you had a LTR? Haven't found the right woman at the right time. That simple.

Honestly, I never wanted a gf until recently. I don't know if I'm growing up or what it is but I'm tired of messing around with random girls

[LanaBear]

Honestly, I never wanted a gf until recently. I don't know if I'm growing up or what it is but I'm tired of messing around with random girls

There you go... That's all they need to know. Like WC said, your response should be a simple... "I haven't found the right woman yet." No need to go on and on about past one night stands and conquests. As long as you are clean, your sexual history is just that, yours and history.

Even if they didn't outwardly say anything or react to it, they were probably a bit intimidated by it.

[Guest]

sehtx, having had sex with so many girls in so little time probably means that you have became very good at separating yourself from entangling relationships. Maybe some of your reactions that at one time were something you did consciously to create separation are now done unconsciously. These are picked up by the girls you want to have longer relationships with and so the relationships fail. Examine your actions at every juncture when you are interacting with girls and determine how your actions will be received. There are probably some books on the psychology of strong relationships.

You have been with a lot of women, so you have had the chance to polish your skills at pleasing the woman you are with. Did you do that? Do you know how to bring a woman to orgasm by your actions as much as her getting into the mood? If not, try learning how to please women. If you are good at it, I think you will have one fall in love with you.

The thing is, I've tried to change so much with these girls. I'm nothing like I used to be. I know I'm a different guy.

I'm not sure what sex has to do with this but yeah, I know what I'm doing in the bed. That's no problem. I don't want a girl falling in love with my 3rd leg anyways.

[Guest]

There you go... That's all they need to know. Like WC said, your response should be a simple... "I haven't found the right woman yet." No need to go on and on about past one night stands and conquests. As long as you are clean, your sexual history is just that, yours and history.

Even if they didn't outwardly say anything or react to it, they were probably a bit intimidated by it.

I'm going to start using that quote. Simple yet effective.

Why would they be intimidated? What do you mean by that?

[jns]

The thing is, I've tried to change so much with these girls. I'm nothing like I used to be. I know I'm a different guy.

I'm not sure what sex has to do with this but yeah, I know what I'm doing in the bed. That's no problem. I don't want a girl falling in love with my 3rd leg anyways.

Do you have any friends who are women? Ask them how you come across when you interact with women when dating. They may surprise you with their answers.

If you fall in love with a girl you should fall in love with all of her, not a subset. She falling in love with you should fall in love with all of you, including your 3rd leg. Do you think a girl shouldn't fall in love with your 3rd leg along with the rest of you?

[ItsASecret]

Why would they be intimidated? What do you mean by that?

I am 22, so I have been around and seen guys like yourself in the action and then try to get into a relationship. The problem is that girls may not take you seriously. It is intimidating because if someone chooses to talk of their past history and it was a very high numbers game then what is to stop that woman from automatically thinking "great I am just another number...a use and lose woman for the night". You tell yourself that you have changed, you are not that type of guy anymore but it will not be as easy for a girl to think that kind of behavior is truly in the past.

[Guest]

Do you have any friends who are women? Ask them how you come across when you interact with women when dating. They may surprise you with their answers.

If you fall in love with a girl you should fall in love with all of her, not a subset. She falling in love with you should fall in love with all of you, including your 3rd leg. Do you think a girl shouldn't fall in love with your 3rd leg along with the rest of you?

Yes, I have some female friends. I don't think they would be able to ttell me how I come across when dating because I never date.

Yes, I would want a girl to love ALL of me but I'm not thinking about sex or love right now.

[Guest]

I am 22, so I have been around and seen guys like yourself in the action and then try to get into a relationship. The problem is that girls may not take you seriously. It is intimidating because if someone chooses to talk of their past history and it was a very high numbers game then what is to stop that woman from automatically thinking "great I am just another number...a use and lose woman for the night". You tell yourself that you have changed, you are not that type of guy anymore but it will not be as easy for a girl to think that kind of behavior is truly in the past.

Wow thanks. I see what you're saying. Maybe they started having 2nd thoughts about me and just got out before their feelings could get hurt? I won't ever bring up my old ways again....

[ItsASecret]

Wow thanks. I see what you're saying. Maybe they started having 2nd thoughts about me and just got out before their feelings could get hurt? I won't ever bring up my old ways again....

It certainly does not need to come up on the first date because honestly it will scare countless numbers of women off. But if you do get into a relationship and she does ask then it is your decision with how you would tell her. That being either totally honest, or saying something like "I did things in the past that I would not do now that I am with you", or telling her you will not speak of your past-if you chose to bluntly say "I am never going to say what happened" it may send a red flag as to why and generally girls do not like things kept a secret if it seems like there is something deep and dark. There is also the chance she may never want to ask of your past because many many girls simply do not care of a man's past because it is the past.

[Guest]

Thanks everyone.