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  • jabooloo14
    Member
    • Aug 2011
    • 27

    To be honest, I've never been alone in my life. I am a dependent person and I depend on someone else being there for me. I am quite a needy person....

    I honestly don't want to loose him since he is one of the better things that has happened to me...

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    • CHANDLERS WISH
      • Mar 2008
      • 22440

      That's just fear.. You are scared to be alone and so you put up with whatever, is that good for you? No... Is it good for you to not "own" yourself? No..

      You do have to be responsible for yourself, Stressed is right or you are going to live a very lonley life as you put up with guys walking all over you, until they are done..

      Start reading, learning to be assertive, owning yourself, knowing yourself..
      PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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      • jabooloo14
        Member
        • Aug 2011
        • 27

        I will have to admit that I've lost my self in the stress of the last 2 years of my life. But now I have a new job and I am tired of being stressed out all the time and worrying all the time. If he wants to be with me then he will have to go by some of my rules.

        We've gotta compromise with each other for this to work and that's that.

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        • Mes T
          Veteran Member
          • Oct 2009
          • 2678

          Are you happy being dependent and needy? Don't you think you deserve a shot at becoming a better and stronger person?

          Just because you're needy now doesn't mean you have to be forever.

          You deserve more than to be glued to some guy that makes you miserable. Sounds like you are quite lonely already. You sure you want to continue this kind of life? If your 8 year old-self saw you now, what would she say? Would she be happy with how you've turned out?

          You're young, the world is full of possibilities. Go and grab them! Don't let some guy (who you'll probably forget about soon enough if you break up) take everything away from you.

          Go out and make FRIENDS. Do you know how happy a girl's night out can make a person? No guys, no relationships, no drama, at least for a WHILE? Getting some drinks with your girlfriends and promising one another you'll be best friends forever, that you'll always be there for each other, like sisters? Don't you think you deserve experiences like that?

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          • stressed
            Veteran Member
            • Jun 2009
            • 1914

            You are needy because you've never been alone in your life, so you're afraid you won't make it alone since you don't know what it's like. The unknown is always frightening until it becomes known. You CAN make it alone, we all can.

            You'll come out stronger by being alone and when you'll decide to be with someone it will be because you'll really want this person, not because he chose you and you accepted it. Don't wait for others to make your life better, make it better yourself because only you know what really makes your life better. Don't wait for others to tell you what to do, you know better.

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            • jns
              Assistant Admin
              • Mar 2010
              • 8398

              Originally posted by jabooloo14
              Is it a bad idea to contact your bf's ex and ask them to please stop sending your bf pictures of them?


              Because from what I know about his ex she wouldn't like this being done to her... So I really want to tell her to stop sending him pictures. I'm scared that if I tell her this then he will get mad at me... I'm stuck :/
              I immediately started to think about how to sour the milk.

              Maybe you could print out the pictures, cut out the boyfriend and merge it with photos of you for your pictures as a couple. Then take the ex and paste it to a board for throwing darts at (I wonder if he will throw the darts at her). Invite your bf to join in the game. Then tell the ex what you have done and ask her to send some more pictures. Oh, she will think of you as evil.
              I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
              ...
              Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

              From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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