[miamilaw]

Hi everyone,

I am so sick of the dating scene. Guys play games and aren't respectful. I really want to have a family of my own, a husband, and children. I would love to make some of my own family traditions. I am so ready for it to come along. I know I have to work hard at finding the right person and it won't happen over night.

That being said, I've decided to try the online dating sites. I'm pretty surprised at the junk out there. [removed] is very disappointing. All I can say is yuck. People don't seem to take anything seriously there. I've also tried out [removed]. That's a clean site with really nice people on it. But, I haven't met the one for me there.

So, does anyone know of other sites that are worth my time? Should I try the paid sites?

[stressed]

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People who've tried dating sites here suggest paid sites, as they are serious and more reliable.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

My experience with dating sites isn't necessarily, game playing, certainly for some, others it's "baggage" that they can't get rid of, state they are ready for a relationship but honestly, they aren't, they still hold a torch for the previous person or, they were burnt by the previous partner and just want a "mate"...

Profiles over an internet can be "made up", I know of one guy that told me that his sister wrote his

Age verses reality, lies.

It's tricky, very tricky... I met my fiance after giving up all that rubbish, you have to treat the dating sites as a way for you to get out, get dressed up, and communicate with the opostive sex...Body language and the right conversation should tell you all you need to know about "if they are worth a second date" and the games? Just play it cool for a few dates, always meet at open places, then they can't play a game, it's yours, you own it.

Paid sites tend to definately be more serious, although that doesn't mean that they won't have some baggage or mis-trust in women... I did meet my ex-husband that way, and it wasn't until a couple of years later , I realised his first wife's burning him created a bridge that I would never get over, and so, life goes on.

If you know who you are and what type of morals, standards you are looking for in life, put it out there into the Universe and get out and about and let it happen.

If I can suggest, don't have ticked boxes ie) type of job, hair colour, height, etc.... That won't work mam

[miamilaw]

Oops, sorry about the links, can we reference dating sites without the .com written after?

[miamilaw]

I haven't even had to consider meeting someone in person that I've met online. Not sure how I will go about that. But thanks for the advice. I will put it myself out there. If I am true to myself than hopefully I can find another truthful person.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I personally don't see the point regarding referencing them, there are so many and they are all as bad as each other....in most instances.

Where do you live? If you don't take the opportunity to meet someone on a dating site, then you are not gleening the real them, you can't see their body language and they are not put in a position face to face to show how they communicate and if there is simular interests...

I do believe that, if you are true to yourself, love yourself for who you are, know your boundries, morals and core beliefs.

Can I ask also how old you are and what hobbies you have? There should be a cross section when looking to date, not one or the other.

[Magnetism]

I haven't had much success with dating sites either. There are serious people on there, but it's an easy way for "not so serious people" to use it to their advantage. I agree that being true to yourself and being the person you are seeking will result in that person being drawn to you.

You don't have to follow this advice, but someone told me to just go on "get to know you" dates with people that aren't even your type. When you search for your one type, you may not get what you want. Going on dates with people outside of your comfort zone help you get to know more about yourself, dating and you may even be surprised to find out you really like.

Lastly, people may seem like your "type" online and they call you up with a high squeaky voice or have feminine mannerisms in person. Maybe that comment was inappropriate, but just my experience.

[PinkySweet]

Hmm, online dating can be pretty interesting.

I actually met my fiance on a website!
I will message you.

[Guest]

No need to reference them by name. A lot of us know them by name.

Dating sites are like a bar, only without the alcohol, dim lights, loud music and people making perfect fools of themselves right in front of you. Unfortunately, you'll probably have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince.

As a male, I had very mixed results/experiences with online sites. From the woman who ws 20 years older than she claimed online, to the woman who was at least 150 pounds heavier than she claimed online, to a woman that stalked me, to finally finding the woman I am in love with and have been for quite sometime.

It was worth going through all that I did to find the one that I have...for there is only one thing greater than the love I have for her!!

[Benni]

In my experience, the paid sites are just as bad as the free ones -- I've tried 6 different ones, 2 were paid sites. Nearly all the men are looking for one thing and I'm sure you know what I mean.