[CHANDLERS WISH]

Cas,

Sitting behind a computer and meeting someone that makes you feel "special", "loved" when you hate being where you are, in your life and where you are living even, lonely....makes each day special huh...

If he has told you to quit your jealousy and tells you it is constant and you haven't met and he's persuing a "virgin"... Then to me, this "character" is just that, using the net to whoo whoever and he has a hold on you.. I think you should block him and look for someone who means what he says..

He's not serious sweet and you don't and should never have to feel "un-safe" or used even if it's emotional.

[BabyGirl]

Cas..
Sweetie, When you say you are planning to meet, is it mutual ? Or is he your " Knight in Shining Armour ".
I am separating your posts in a different way that you posted the, to hopefully show you what we are possibly thinking right now .

I know I will get closer cause I won't be living in this place where I am right now..I will move closer to him cause it will be very hard to manage a long distance affair.

You have a Love or Desire to get away from where you are ? Is it a place where you can educate yourself and be Sponsored to . Is this the Love to be Strong and even possibly have a marriage.

To me, he seemed to have Empathy and Sympathy and trying to get your hopes and Spirits up.

and in the same way I will have to find another place where i can go back to a laid back life...those thing..it's moving closer like hitting different things using one stone...

Why if you have a person that Loves you, Will you have to find a another Place to Live ? Have you thrown too many " stones " have you " Burned your Bridges "

well we were planning to meet..but I guess it is different now for him..I really have the plan to meet him and see where it goes..and if we move forward.

On this, I would have to accept the "Online Therapy " Of the Relationship and really Start caring about Yourself with Help of all the people here.

So now ..
Give us
You are Beautify making the Positives in your Life. Then the also the Negatives and why is it Different for and with him ?

Then . you may ask why do you want it Different * life * between you and him as a couple.

[cas27]

*chandelier: yes, I do have the feeling that he is doing that" pursuing" ,"flirting" with just anyone on the net...well like this virgin that he is with right now...I have tried to explain to him my point of view of having someone" special" but still talking to others..but he said..there should be nothing wrong cause they are just talking...I wanted to believe that he is a player but there is this feeling in me that says..he may not be...confused..yes I am right now...

*babygirl: yes the plan to meet is mutual,we are just taking into consideration the financial ..cause he is from the US ..and I am here in Asia..I also do understand that he has children to feed..I have been in a violent relationship with an ex..I was a battered gf..and him showing me his concerns about me ...is priceless for me..I guess that made me trust him so much...we will meet and see where this goes..that's the plan..I will get closer if we get serious ,for the reason of ..well he has children..he can't just live his place where he is right now...I am really having a hard time figuring out ..I have doubts that he may not be that real..but I don't want to regret as well just in case I decide to not meet him..I feel for him...thats the only thing

[mellyssa]

Simple he cares as a "friend" and dosnt want to see anything happen to you he loves you But not in a inlove with you way BUT things sometimes change but if some feelings are already there thats good he thinks about your feelings and maybe even dating but nothing to serious sometimes when u feel more for someone being friends just dosnt work and someone usually gets hurt !!!