[Stillness]

It was when we got into it at the movies and i embarrassed him is when he started acting like this. From that day on no matter what he said " everything is fine, nothing has changed" i knew and felt that things were different. I didnt feel the love anymore. It hurt alot because i felt like it was my fault that he changed.

Nah, he was probably just looking for a reason. I hate disloyalty like this. It means he's not good people. He's bad. Bad people do bad things. It's that simple. A faithful and true friend like you will never get it. Don't try. Other people think he's cool because they don't know him well enough or he just hasn't wronged them yet.

The one kindness is that you found out fairly early before you got married or had kids with him. He's probably back into criminal activity which is why his cousin said he's trying to do too much too fast. I know people like this - I'm related to some of them. They just don't learn. You'll be fine now that he's gone. Be grateful that he showed his true colors.

[rubyrage21]

Nah, he was probably just looking for a reason. I hate disloyalty like this. It means he's not good people. He's bad. Bad people do bad things. It's that simple. A faithful and true friend like you will never get it. Don't try. Other people think he's cool because they don't know him well enough or he just hasn't wronged them yet.

The one kindness is that you found out fairly early before you got married or had kids with him. He's probably back into criminal activity which is why his cousin said he's trying to do too much too fast. I know people like this - I'm related to some of them. They just don't learn. You'll be fine now that he's gone. Be grateful that he showed his true colors.

Thank you for that. Everyone says the same thing about me being grateful that i found out early. I just don't understand why i cant see it. I'm having a hard time accepting that he is bad because all i can think about is how sweet he was to me while he was locked up and that someone cant fake it for that long. His words felt so real! And thats what hurts because i feel like i lost him but everyone keeps telling me that the image he portrayed was fake. I can't believe it and yes you are right to say that i may never understand it.

[electric89]

Rubyrage21,

You have suffered a lot, and I don't have any advices to give nor comforting words to say; how I wish I was there to lend you a shoulder to cry on.

I pray that you will recover and get back on your normal life soon. I do believe you will recover, it just takes some time and efforts. I won't say be strong, because I know you are already strong (mentally, I meant). because the fact that you've been posting here and asking advices from people, tell me that you're a responsible person to what's happening around of you. Only the strong & responsible ones will do this and try to make things better even sometimes they weren't the ones who did the mistakes, and from my own personal experiences & others, only the strong ones will get better with time. and I believe you're one of them.

May all His blessings shower upon you, my dear. Take care!

Yours,
Electric.

[rubyrage21]

Rubyrage21,

You have suffered a lot, and I don't have any advices to give nor comforting words to say; how I wish I was there to lend you a shoulder to cry on.

I pray that you will recover and get back on your normal life soon. I do believe you will recover, it just takes some time and efforts. I won't say be strong, because I know you are already strong (mentally, I meant). because the fact that you've been posting here and asking advices from people, tell me that you're a responsible person to what's happening around of you. Only the strong & responsible ones will do this and try to make things better even sometimes they weren't the ones who did the mistakes, and from my own personal experiences & others, only the strong ones will get better with time. and I believe you're one of them.

May all His blessings shower upon you, my dear. Take care!

Yours,
Electric.

I humbly thank you so much!