Amber, I've got quite a lot of experience with internet dating, and in my experience most women put their safety as priority number one, and rightly so. This means I wouldn't expect a women to give me her number, I always gave mine first so if we chatted she could call me from a withheld number if she wanted too, some do, others don't.
Some girls only want to communicate via text, others want to talk on the phone straight away to minimize 'time wasting' others won't give out their number or talk for a week or so. It is a numbers game and men have to send a LOT of messages before they get a reply. It is also very common for women to initiate chat by emailing men, I've had girls message me asking me out on POF.
I've chatted to girls who say a man should ask them out by the third email, which I usually do to make my intentions clear, remember a date scheduled a week away gives time for plenty of communication via email and phone.
It is hard to try and establish whether two people are compatible over email and based on a picture. Some people don't write well and have trouble transcribing their thoughts. I would maybe give the guy a chance over the phone if you are unsure, take his number and call withholding yours. He may well be the shy type but taking the lead with a less confident man could pay dividends if he's the right guy, though any man scared to ask a girl out on a dating website must be pretty low on confidence.
Have you been on any dates yet from online dating?
Some girls only want to communicate via text, others want to talk on the phone straight away to minimize 'time wasting' others won't give out their number or talk for a week or so. It is a numbers game and men have to send a LOT of messages before they get a reply. It is also very common for women to initiate chat by emailing men, I've had girls message me asking me out on POF.
I've chatted to girls who say a man should ask them out by the third email, which I usually do to make my intentions clear, remember a date scheduled a week away gives time for plenty of communication via email and phone.
It is hard to try and establish whether two people are compatible over email and based on a picture. Some people don't write well and have trouble transcribing their thoughts. I would maybe give the guy a chance over the phone if you are unsure, take his number and call withholding yours. He may well be the shy type but taking the lead with a less confident man could pay dividends if he's the right guy, though any man scared to ask a girl out on a dating website must be pretty low on confidence.
Have you been on any dates yet from online dating?
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