[jns]

I think talking with a counselor would be good for both of you.

Keeping up on studies can take a lot of work and having a lot of drama in your personal life is detrimental to studying. Starting over slowly sounds like a good plan and counseling should give you both insights into how to handle any emotional bumps during your relationship together.

[HaplessDia01]

I think talking with a counselor would be good for both of you.

Keeping up on studies can take a lot of work and having a lot of drama in your personal life is detrimental to studying. Starting over slowly sounds like a good plan and counseling should give you both insights into how to handle any emotional bumps during your relationship together.

Thank you for your response. Even though it seems like a simple, point-blank solution, I'm feeling a lot of grief over this whole situation. It's so complicated now when it use to be so easy to just be together... I think he is worth it, and the relationship is as well. I don't want to just give up like a lot of people have been telling me. A lot of them say "He doesn't love you anymore, so it's over!" or "If you're on a 'break' then that's really just a break-up." As it is, we're not really on 'break' anymore, but it doesn't feel like we're truly back together either. I feel like we're gonna be in this months-long before we really see any progress towards regaining what was. How long should I invest in this without progress before I move on? If we're going slow with this, how slow is acceptable? How accepting of his hardships should I be before it becomes unhealthy to just continue to wait around? Since he can't give me 100% right now, how long should I hold on before I start expecting him to give me that amount of effort once again? I know that nobody really has these answers - not even he does - but I just feel uneasy. How many people have gone through something like this, and ended up in a healthier, stronger relationship because of it? I've only heard of it ending in disaster, and that's not what I want at all. How can I express my support without being seen as pressuring?