[sammysmithx]

Yeah, as stated before it is 2014. There is no big deal if he only surfs for porn or facebook. It's natural for men, I guess. If you'll be too strict about it and get too much in "his own comfort zone" it might blow up, sister.

[effy2014]

A good question to ask yourself is whether he makes you feel that you are not good enough in other situations. Does he not pay attention to you when you are out? Was he receptive when your friend hot on him? Do you notice him looking at other women or comparing you unfavorably to other women?

If the answers are no and the only insecurity you have is his Facebook history, then you probably have nothing to fear. As you wrote, he has not been unfaithful. But, if you have been made to feel unworthy in other situations, this may be part of a pattern for the two of you to discuss and work through.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You know, you are saying he's also looking up his work colleagues.

Have you ever considered that he has a massive, inquisitive mind? Looking up what people are doing/saying on face-book tends to give you insight to their personality as well as their life. Allows you to see them more for themselves than otherwise, just saying hi as you pass them at work etc.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

OP do you wish to reply to the member's posts to date and let us know what you think?

[honeybee888]

I LOVE all of your response! It has given me a lot to think about! I have not looked at his compu history when I have been his his house, mainly to shield my insecurities! He does not make me feel unattractive. The comment about him being bored with me could be possible; however, I feel that if he were bored he would tell me or not have sex with me as much. I am trying really hard not to focus on these insecurities because i have seen our relationship improve in that regard by me just stepping back.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

"If you love something, set it free, if it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't it never was" ...

Point being, if he laughs with you, shows affection, is intimate a lot, chances are he loves being with you.

I have checked past boyfriends but out of curiosity in how their life went so I would know what I would have ended up like Same with some of my clients out of curiosity of their personalities.

But, if someone left you? Then you have to access and know that there is one good person we should spend the rest of our lives with and often we go through a few relationships to find that person as we grow and realise different things that wouldn't have made that relationship a happy ever after one.

Life in the now, not in fear and enjoy your life.