[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well that is LOL, but i still think there is something hidden there where he helped someone in his youth and can't get over it, so i'm kind of sticking to my little bit, HOT CHICK WHO HAS ONE AND HALF ARMS.... ...

What if he does not have a fetish? But a i fell in love with someone that was? And i can't get over HER?

Worth a thought i think you just never, ever, ever, know.....

CW

[keasrt]

update!

I had a heart to heart talk to w/ him. He told me that he has feelings for me but he ultimately wants to end up with an amputee and that he had met and amputee online that he was interested in. I told him it was over between us and tried to cut off all communication and OMG it hurt like hell but i was determined to do it! After two days he told me he wanted to talk to me one last time, so being the fool in love i am i agreed. After that talk, he had me again he told me that things didn't work out between him and that amputee girl he met online and that he LOVED me....first time he said that after a year of dating!! I love him too, I've loved him since the minute I saw him. I have given my all to him. So he said he loves me back...my question is ....is that enough? I love enough for him to be able to give himself completely to me and just leave that "fetish,or attraction" behind....Whyyyy...can he just be normal why? I could deal w/any other fetishes... but not that!

Thank you all for your advice, it definately helps alot!

[Fallen1]

I had a heart to heart talk to w/ him. He told me that he has feelings for me but he ultimately wants to end up with an amputee and that he had met and amputee online that he was interested in. I told him it was over between us and tried to cut off all communication and OMG it hurt like hell but i was determined to do it! After two days he told me he wanted to talk to me one last time, so being the fool in love i am i agreed. After that talk, he had me again he told me that things didn't work out between him and that amputee girl he met online and that he LOVED me....first time he said that after a year of dating!! I love him too, I've loved him since the minute I saw him. I have given my all to him. So he said he loves me back...my question is ....is that enough? I love enough for him to be able to give himself completely to me and just leave that "fetish,or attraction" behind....Whyyyy...can he just be normal why? I could deal w/any other fetishes... but not that!

Thank you all for your advice, it definately helps alot!

I know you love him and it's hard, but in my opinion I think you need to move on. This fetish/attraction he has seems to be a strong one and I don't think it is something he will just get over. He's already broken up with you for someone he met on line, the odds are he'll do it again.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

OK, funk that shoot.

Dump him, get rid. Next time he meets an amputee online your out on your *** till that one doesn't work, at which point you will again become his security blanket. You might care for him, but it sounds like he's a prick with pretty strong leanings for the handicapable...... Just leave it alone and find yourself someone with less serious problems.

He loves you? Please, that's bs. He's saying whatever he can think of to keep you.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

OK, funk that shoot.

Dump him, get rid. Next time he meets an amputee online your out on your *** till that one doesn't work, at which point you will again become his security blanket. You might care for him, but it sounds like he's a prick with pretty strong leanings for the handicapable...... Just leave it alone and find yourself someone with less serious problems.

He loves you? Please, that's bs. He's saying whatever he can think of to keep you.

I/m going to steel that top line that's for sure......

Gee, and i was so hopeful it was some lost love in his life that made him feel like this but alas, it appears he is in a fact a selfish, selfish person.

I agree with ANON, it's obvious that he doesn't want to be lonley so whilst he's "seeking" you'll do.

Yep, men say what ever to get what they want just as much as women, only we say it to get assessories, he just wants the parts.

No punt intended.

CW

[The Orbess]

Do u c a pattern forming here?

He leaves, finds he doeswnt like her, comes back to you..wash rinse repeat.

Take him back this tie, and you're setting a dangerous pattern. One that has confused and hurt u before.

The way he sees it, he'll always have someone to fall back on when he's done doing his "Duece bigalow One legged girl"....he's only trying to have his cake and eat it too.

Dont be the cake..be the frosting on the top. You're above all that stuff. No tell him you wont be his security blanket, and he has to make a choice: Either commit to his speaches and be with you, if he cares so much...or leave and be with his amputees (god, that still creeps me out...not that they're sub human, but it's just..weird to me.)

But u understand right? Give HIM the options..the one who give options is the one who has power.


-Orbess