[Asarabacca]

mmm, I'm not keen on my BF looking at porn, is a bit like not being mature about what sex is. Sex is something intimate you do with your partner not something you do in order to get a sexual high like a teenage boy with a porn mag.

Sex is different for everyone.

I don't see porn as cheating, but that's probably because I look at it and so does my partner. We both agree that it gets the job done.

[caster]

mmm, I'm not keen on my BF looking at porn, is a bit like not being mature about what sex is. Sex is something intimate you do with your partner not something you do in order to get a sexual high like a teenage boy with a porn mag.

So I take it masturbation is taboo for you as well as your BF once you become a couple?

[PandaB87]

So I take it masturbation is taboo for you as well as your BF once you become a couple?

Boom!

I never worried about any of this in past relationships.

[effy2014]

I assumed that this thread would die, as the OP has not returned since she posted. However, I feel compelled to comment on Lindsy's post. If her BF watches porn as a reality show about sex (or as a substitute for the real stuff) he may have a maturity issue. It is as immature as people who watch soap operas thinking that they accurately depict relationships or the WWE thinking that it is real. Most of us just aren't that stupid.

Porn is entertainment, plain and simple. It has the added benefit of naked people on the screen. Just like any form of entertainment, there need to be limits and boundaries. But watching porn is not cheating, emotionally or otherwise, nor is it a sign of immaturity. Unless there is serious issue of substituting porn for relationship intimacy, making a big deal over watching porn is a huge mistake.

[faeluna]

I think it is definitely cheating and you shouldn't have to "get over it."

[effy2014]

I am curious, faeluna, why do you think that it is cheating? Do you think having a crush on a movie star is cheating? Is masterbation cheating?

One of the problems with using the criteria of watching pornography as cheating is that virtually every man in this world will have, by your definition, cheated on a spouse or girlfriend. That seems like an unhelpful label to put on people.

Some of us say "get over it" because having unrealistic expectations of a partner can doom an otherwise excellent relationship. The odds are that the OP will never find a man who hasn't watched porn or who won't watch porn at some point in their relationship. That is just a statistical fact. And, if she found such a man, would he really be superior just because he won't watch porn?

[Motorguy]

I would have to add. If you looking at a skippy clad dress women is that cheating. Then I am guilty of cheating a whole bunch of times if that's consider cheating. I don't think so in my book. Myself and wife enjoy watching porn together it gets the motor running for us both.