[atskitty2]

Well, as little as I've said, he seems to remember it. I said something about the illness I may have, he confirmed the possibility and said he'd read up on it.<br />
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That was nice. I hadn't thought he was listening.

[Ashlee T.]

That IS a nice thing. The guy I'm dating right now brings up little things I've said, done, or even worn and I'm so not use to someone paying that much attention to all the little details. It's a great feeling when someone is genuinely interested in all that makes you, you.

What's the latest?

[atskitty2]

I've not seen him since that date. He texts me daily, at least once. <br />
I've had a rough time with new developments in my illness, and family visiting from out of town, the last week.<br />
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I do like this guy, and I hope that things continue to go well. I realized I am usually unhappy about how fast men want to move forward, and here is a guy moving slow, and I want to speed things up! So, I put myself on pause, and have just decided to enjoy the pace, at his leading. Makes me a bit insecure, honestly, but it's just been 2 weeks. I actually like this, not having plans every other day with someone.

[atskitty2]

We wound up meeting for dinner last night. He told me he'd had a follow-up discussion with "her" and that he had cut off the friendship for awhile and explained to her why. Told me he did it for her benefit, in hopes she will realize and finally move forward, and even seek help for her issues. That's been the extent of it for 2 weeks. I was pleased to hear it.

He told me a bit of her history also, which sort of explains her behavior. Very sad actually.

We had a nice discussion about what we're looking for, and what we want. He's very communicative and seems to know himself well enough to be comfortable sharing what he views as his faults and what he needs and wants in a partner.
I believe he's being very honest. I am really into him, more than I've been into any other man I've dated.
He told me his opinion of me so far, getting to know me, and his assessment was right on point. That made me realize how interested he is, and being respectful of me.

Every time I'm with him I have a time where he just makes me think "wow". I am building respect for him and admiration. I think I've found a good man, genuinely.

We wound up back at his house for a swim and some hot tub time...lots of fun. Was a very nice evening.

[Motorguy]

Oh wow this is excellent news Kitty. I'm so very happy for you from what I have read it seem like a very nice relationship forming for you with this new guy. I truly wish you the very best in the future in this relationship.

[Ashlee T.]

I'm just now catching up on this. Sounds like a wonderful time and I'm so happy to hear you two are enjoying each other!!!

[atskitty2]

Thanks<br />
I actually have enjoyed more time getting to know him. <br />
He has a dog, and it's been a really nice surprise watching him interact with her and her response to him. I take a lot away from watching a man with his dog I've been impressed. <br />
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He is a sweet, sweet man. I've recently been diagnosed with another disease, on top of the existing autoimmune issue. I told him and he didn't say much. The next time we spoke, he had googled it to try to learn what that meant for me. I was impressed. Again. He cares about me. I can see that in these types of things. He listens when I didn't even think I'd said anything meaningful and asks me about it-what I meant and how I really think or feel about it. He's really trying to get to know me on a deeper level than accepting my comments at face value, and challenges me. He's earned my respect. <br />
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But trust me, it isn't all seriousness and figuring each other out. We have a lot of fun together. We do have a different sense of humor, and I don't think he always gets my dry, sarcastic, sometimes dark, odd sense of humor, but I don't always catch his jokes right away either. <br />
I am completely comfortable with him. I've opened up to him, and felt good about it. I think we make a pretty good partnership as of now. <br />
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And we only really see each other once a week or so. He hasn't demonstrated the neediness or smothering characteristics that typically start to drive me away by now.

[Ashlee T.]

He sounds great!!! Isn't it wonderful to feel that great feeling, of getting to know someone and being pleasantly surprised by pretty much everything you discover? I relate, as it is wonderful to feel happy, comfortable and cherished.

[atskitty2]

It is pretty great. I'm struggling this time, with being the one who's ready to go further and he's going slowly. I mentioned it, he said he's just busy with his boys, but he still likes me. <br />
I'm hanging back, giving space and respectful of that. It's hard tho. I don't wanna be the one doing the smothering, so I'm not expecting too much time together. I usually am feeling smothered so, I don't want to do that.<br />
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I do like him very much, and I wouldn't date anyone else, if it weren't him, so it's fine. I miss those hugs! Lol

[Ashlee T.]

I can SO relate!

It is really hard when your feelings are causing you to want more than what the other person does at that particular time. And for those of us who are "gun shy" there is this fear of "I like him too much and he's going to end up not liking me back." It's like, I usually don't like the person enough and end up ending it. But when I REALLY do like the person, I find myself getting scared which would result in me being clingy if I let it. It's so hard until you get to the point in a relationship where you can give each other good reassurance. I have finally gotten there in this relationship. We've been dating for 4 months and we are both feeling comfortable enough now to express our feelings verbally and with actions so that we are both getting regular reassurance. There were times in the beginning though, where if he went longer than usual without texting I'd be sitting here wondering what he was doing, why he's not texting, driving myself crazy and thinking, "THIS IS NOT LIKE ME AND I DON'T LIKE IT!!!!"

I think you're doing the right thing. I hope he decides to pick up the pace a tad. Time is the only "fortune teller".