[acerousme]

Okay,
I REALLY need help on this one.

There is a guy I have been talking to for about....a year now, and he knows im interested. But he has a girlfriend...
EVERY time he gets the chance, it seems he wants to hit on me, and flirt like crazy.
but he has a girlfriend...
is it wrong of me to hit on him back?
And then, for about a week, he will be a cold fish....and will only say a few words to me a day(mostly 2 syllables)

Im a bigger woman, and I dont get a lot of Male attention, except from my dad.

Any advice????

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Okay,
I REALLY need help on this one.

There is a guy I have been talking to for about....a year now, and he knows im interested. But he has a girlfriend...
EVERY time he gets the chance, it seems he wants to hit on me, and flirt like crazy.
but he has a girlfriend...
is it wrong of me to hit on him back?
And then, for about a week, he will be a cold fish....and will only say a few words to me a day(mostly 2 syllables)

Im a bigger woman, and I dont get a lot of Male attention, except from my dad.

Any advice????

He's a naughty boy.... He loves flirting, happy probably in his relationship, accepts the attention then backs of...

Have some fun with him, it can't hurt you " flirting that is", ..

Flirting is good fun, just read the signs correctly...

CW

[FionaDiaz]

I do know how you feel, Sweetie, I had the same problem when living in the USA, luckily, here in Guatemala weight doesn't seem to be that big of a deal!

Flirting is never really wrong. Many people will say that it is, but as long as you are able to stop at flirting, you'll be fine. My husband and I flirt with people in front of each other, sometimes (not on purpose, just both flirty people!). It's not cheating.

However, if he is playing games with you, going from flirting to cold shoulder constantly you might get hurt (I did). Why don't you give him the could shoulder for a change and see what happens?

Just remember to stop at flirting, and meet new people! Maybe you'll find a great guy who is single!

[acerousme]

soo,
I ignored him, and wrote in my blog about another guy (who apparantly likes me...and he is really nice(we will call him Bud)), but the other guy (whom I will call....sparky)...so Sparky began to hit on me again, and stopped ignoring me...completely.
I think he was actually jealous..... Uh, helloooo, he doesnt own me.

It suck being bigger, because I do not get a lot of male attention. But I absolutely refuse to have sex, because I want to wait until marriage,so I know the man will appreciate me, and love my body.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

soo,
I ignored him, and wrote in my blog about another guy (who apparantly likes me...and he is really nice(we will call him Bud)), but the other guy (whom I will call....sparky)...so Sparky began to hit on me again, and stopped ignoring me...completely.
I think he was actually jealous..... Uh, helloooo, he doesnt own me.

It suck being bigger, because I do not get a lot of male attention. But I absolutely refuse to have sex, because I want to wait until marriage,so I know the man will appreciate me, and love my body.

It's a bit like a fishing line isn't it:- "real them in - let them go - real them in. " Gee, sounds like he likes being the centre of attraction? Nooooo what? Another guy, but then he'll give you the cold shoulder if you show that you like him....

Why does it suck being bigger? I'm tired of people saying guys don't look at women unless they are slim? What the Womans Weekly style? Who Magazine? Which are actually air brushed, and all their cellulite is stripped and varicose veins so you can't see them?

Hate to tell you this, men like all sorts of women, the ones they like the most? Those with confidence a beautiful smile and can carry that walk.....

Exactly.... The man whom you marry will love everything about you and that you waited for him.

As said above a few times, know the limit, enjoy flirting and make it known that that is all it is, nothing more, nothing less.... That will get Mr Sparky back....

Sounds like you have a great head on your shoulders, have fun.

CW

[Private.Flangeamin]

Okay,
I REALLY need help on this one.

There is a guy I have been talking to for about....a year now, and he knows im interested. But he has a girlfriend...
EVERY time he gets the chance, it seems he wants to hit on me, and flirt like crazy.
but he has a girlfriend...
is it wrong of me to hit on him back?
And then, for about a week, he will be a cold fish....and will only say a few words to me a day(mostly 2 syllables)

Im a bigger woman, and I dont get a lot of Male attention, except from my dad.

Any advice????

I think this guy is just loving having your attention , and if he thinks you will give it , Your too good for him ...hs playing games and seeking your attention , id let him see there are other guys out there and your too busy being chased by them to be interested in him ...its not wrong to flirt a little back , hes not married or engaged ...i but i think your too good for him ...id let him see you with another guy , and you can bet he will be chasing you everywhere till you get tired of him ....

[FionaDiaz]

It's a bit like a fishing line isn't it:- "real them in - let them go - real them in. "

lmao - hehehehehe

[Pinkstarluv]

So, i don't know really. This is one of those touchy subjects. Let me elaborate. I spent 4 miserable years with my Ex, why? i don't really have a single clue to be all honest with you, but he was extremely controlling and started to push abuse towards the end. So i met this guy at work and instantly i knew he was my true love. But for 6 months i was in love with this amazing man and still led a horrible home life. Then i finally got the guts to leave the other guys and instantly things just fell amazingly into place. We are now almost a yr into our relationship and of course we have our typical fallouts, but he is my life passion. It's almost sickly sounding, but it's true. So, maybe he really is deeply in love with you or maybe he is just playing his gf and you, and even if he left her he would do it to you. What really is his problem? I want you to succeed at love, living a life without true love is something i wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. But you have to be hurt a few times and hit a low before you can hit your highest. And i don't wanna hear any **** about weight. I am a size 18/20. Really when it comes down to it, its personality in the end. Without personality it's not love. Everyone sees beauty a different way. Don't let your weight hold you back from anything. You will live to regret it and that will make you bitter and depressed.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

So, i don't know really. This is one of those touchy subjects. Let me elaborate. I spent 4 miserable years with my Ex, why? i don't really have a single clue to be all honest with you, but he was extremely controlling and started to push abuse towards the end. So i met this guy at work and instantly i knew he was my true love. But for 6 months i was in love with this amazing man and still led a horrible home life. Then i finally got the guts to leave the other guys and instantly things just fell amazingly into place. We are now almost a yr into our relationship and of course we have our typical fallouts, but he is my life passion. It's almost sickly sounding, but it's true. So, maybe he really is deeply in love with you or maybe he is just playing his gf and you, and even if he left her he would do it to you. What really is his problem? I want you to succeed at love, living a life without true love is something i wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. But you have to be hurt a few times and hit a low before you can hit your highest. And i don't wanna hear any **** about weight. I am a size 18/20. Really when it comes down to it, its personality in the end. Without personality it's not love. Everyone sees beauty a different way. Don't let your weight hold you back from anything. You will live to regret it and that will make you bitter and depressed.

Doesn't sound sickly to me, sounds owwwww, shucks...

You fell short of 3 years, mine was 7... I met lots of "cool deep men", not for me, but showed me that there are passionate men out there that respect and want love and to return it... I to walked. Spent the past 6 communicating with 21 days to go with a "very passionate" man..... whom has qualities i believe that i am definately after in a man...

Good for you.....

Yes, personality, confidence, a man doesn't know what hit him when a woman walks the walk and makes him laugh, reaching deep into her soul as i always say we are all beautiful...

I am slim but that's my make-up....

CW

[Uneeklyme]

Okay,
I REALLY need help on this one.

There is a guy I have been talking to for about....a year now, and he knows im interested. But he has a girlfriend...
EVERY time he gets the chance, it seems he wants to hit on me, and flirt like crazy.
but he has a girlfriend...
is it wrong of me to hit on him back?
And then, for about a week, he will be a cold fish....and will only say a few words to me a day(mostly 2 syllables)

Im a bigger woman, and I dont get a lot of Male attention, except from my dad.

Any advice????

Flirting is fun and often flattering. Makes a person feel good to have the attention and happy to be able to make someone smile and laugh when your giving the attention.

However... the way I read your post... persuing (hit on him) KNOWING he has a girlfriend is in my opinion, wrong. Flirting and hitting on are two different things.

If he is doing the friendly, fun, flirting with you, give what you get. Have fun with it. Understanding that its not about getting with him, its just friendly banter. If he is hitting on you to try and make something with you... well, he has a girlfriend and being a player is so not cool. Would he "flirt" with you like he does if his girlfriend were in earshot? Some people are just naturally flirty. If the answer is no especially because his flirting might be innapropriate in any way while in a realationship...be wary.

As an aside. Your size should not be an issue here. Especially if its just flirting and where does sex come into play with just flirting?