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    I don't have a whole lot of experience with dating. I am not a shy person, except when it comes to "making a move" on a girl. So I was just wondering what are some good conversation starters or pickup lines? Should a person even just start talking to a woman at the train station for example?

    I have been told the "can I buy you a drink?" line works well, but I don't drink so that wouldn't work. And I don't really go to clubs so thats kind of not relevant.

    And should I mention that I have very little experience with sex (outside of porn of course)?

  • Depends on the occasion and where you are. You don't have to be drinking to buy a lady a drink. But at the train station, I wouldn't open with that.

    At a train station, just comment on the weather, or a delay, or whatever is going on there at the time. Just saying hi, how are you is enough.

    Personally, I'm not a big fan of dudes trying to "pick me up" while I'm doing my business at the store or in line at the bmv or where ever I need to be. But an organic, naturally occurring, friendly meeting is not an unattractive thought. Just don't force it. Don't run into her cart at the grocery or bump her arm in a line and pretend it was accidental.

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    • Originally posted by atskitty2 View Post
      Depends on the occasion and where you are. You don't have to be drinking to buy a lady a drink. But at the train station, I wouldn't open with that.

      At a train station, just comment on the weather, or a delay, or whatever is going on there at the time. Just saying hi, how are you is enough.

      Personally, I'm not a big fan of dudes trying to "pick me up" while I'm doing my business at the store or in line at the bmv or where ever I need to be. But an organic, naturally occurring, friendly meeting is not an unattractive thought. Just don't force it. Don't run into her cart at the grocery or bump her arm in a line and pretend it was accidental.
      Thanks for the vote of confidence!

      So would it be OK if after a 5 minute organic/natural conversation to ask a total stranger (up till 5 mins ago) for her number or ask her out on a date?

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      • I don't think that's out of line IF you're getting willing return of discussion from her. You might say, I've gotta go, but I think you're interesting and would enjoy continuing our chat. Hand her your business card, or ask to meet for coffee later this same day, or ask for her number. Don't be surprised if a woman declines to share her number. I don't give my number out very much.

        If you meet any resistance at all, just end the interaction. If she isn't engaging in the discussion, or adding to it, she's probably not interested, and just being nice.

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        • Originally posted by atskitty2 View Post
          I don't think that's out of line IF you're getting willing return of discussion from her. You might say, I've gotta go, but I think you're interesting and would enjoy continuing our chat. Hand her your business card, or ask to meet for coffee later this same day, or ask for her number. Don't be surprised if a woman declines to share her number. I don't give my number out very much.

          If you meet any resistance at all, just end the interaction. If she isn't engaging in the discussion, or adding to it, she's probably not interested, and just being nice.
          I see. I have always had trouble figuring out if a girl is just being nice or if she is genuinely interested. It always ends up being the former, lol.

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          • Well, it can be confusing. That's why I say, choose wisely your times to approach. I can't imagine that I'm different from most women in not appreciating being hit on every place I need to be.
            Watch for eye contact and smiles. Learn to understand body language better.

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            • Originally posted by a_dub View Post
              And should I mention that I have very little experience with sex
              but according to previous posts, you do have experience
              (the 2014 hot girlfriend?)

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              • you don't need a specific pick up line

                spoke to a guy at grocery store other day, just made a comment and he stopped to talk with me

                offer people and some will talk if they have time
                (i.e. if they can't find something in store, ask what they are looking for, rush ahead to open a door for someone, offer to carry a person's groceries)

                be observant, there are things you can do/say and people will naturally talk to you
                little comments get people talking

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                • Originally posted by a_dub View Post
                  I have been told the "can I buy you a drink?" line works well, but I don't drink so that wouldn't work.
                  can I buy you a coffee or tea?

                  have you eaten lunch yet? I know this great cafe around the corner

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                  • Originally posted by amy40 View Post
                    you don't need a specific pick up line

                    spoke to a guy at grocery store other day, just made a comment and he stopped to talk with me

                    offer people and some will talk if they have time
                    (i.e. if they can't find something in store, ask what they are looking for, rush ahead to open a door for someone, offer to carry a person's groceries)

                    be observant, there are things you can do/say and people will naturally talk to you
                    little comments get people talking
                    Thanks for that bit of advise. Will try it out!

                    LOL, yes I have a little bit of experience. But not much compared to the average 34 yo guy. And I've watched a good amount of porn like any other guy.

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                    • Just be friendly and be yourself: you don't need a cheesy chat-up line. A simple "Hi. It is very busy in here today, isn't it?" will do: or something to that effect. And just continue from there. Don't be someone you're not. Since you don't like drinking, don't invite her out for a drink. Maybe say "Do you like chess?" or suggest a walk in the park. That kind of thing. The right person will welcome your advances and you won't have to use a pickup line!

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                      • Originally posted by Popcorn&Candy View Post
                        Just be friendly and be yourself: you don't need a cheesy chat-up line. A simple "Hi. It is very busy in here today, isn't it?" will do: or something to that effect. And just continue from there. Don't be someone you're not. Since you don't like drinking, don't invite her out for a drink. Maybe say "Do you like chess?" or suggest a walk in the park. That kind of thing. The right person will welcome your advances and you won't have to use a pickup line!
                        Thanks.

                        If only I could find a woman who enjoys sex in the park. Then I really wouldn't have to pretend to be someone I'm not. LOL.

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                        • adub
                          are you looking for a wife or only sex?

                          just curious

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                          • Originally posted by amy40 View Post
                            adub
                            are you looking for a wife or only sex?

                            just curious
                            To be honest I really dont know. I'm not financially capable of getting married. In my culture you have to have $10-20,000 cash upfront to give your bride and then the average wedding is another $30-50,000. Besides that I'm not mature enough for a marriage, if I am being honest. Probably just not wired for that sort of thing.

                            So I guess the answer is sex only. But I seem to only run into asexual women no matter where I go.

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                            • thanks for being honest, adub

                              however, wouldn't give up on love and some people do find it quicker than years (per your 11/21/13 post)

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