[atskitty2]

I had an interesting text exchange with a guy I've been seeing, and I'm not quite sure what to make of it. I'd like to hear your thoughts. Extra points from our men on this one, cuz as a woman, I'm puzzled.
I wish I could put it in better context. I realize over texts, things can seem very different than we intend, so I'm just curious what someone else would think.

The gist of it was, he commented something about me watching him-as in stalking. I said I'm not that type. He said too bad (rather joking). I asked if he was looking for someone to stalk him (again, still a rather joking tone), he said he'd never had a stalker before and it would be nice to have someone be that crazy about him. ??
I said, that's not a person who's crazy about you, that is just crazy. He said sometimes a little crazy will do, is there something you need to tell me?
Then I said seriously tho, no, I'm not crazy.
He said I've never made him think I'm crazy.
I asked if he's really thinking he'd just enjoy someone who "ACTED that crazy about you"? Is that what you mean?". He said he'd just rather a person be that into him.

Now, I'm not suggesting this guy is a stalker, that's not my thought at all. I'm thinking he probably doesn't know himself very well, and is probably going to be very needy, if he thinks stalker-like behaviour is appealing...??? It was all just a little messed up...the conversation. It's silly, and kind of weird.

Would you sort of put yourself on alert with this dude's mental health or his own evaluation of his needs in a relationship? I'm probably over-thinking the whole thing, but something about it all just didn't settle right with me.
I'm not terribly crazy about him, and I have had other things make me say Hmmm...but we've not known each other long, so I am giving it time, but this really raised my guard a little, especially after I said, "in all seriousness now"

Thoughts?

[jns]

There is a fine line between a touch of craziness and too much craziness. He was probably just complaining due to a past of vanilla relationships. He wants a little more of the unexpected, but focused on wanting him. This could be seen as clinging or it could be seen as bonding.

[amy40]

He said sometimes a little crazy will do, is there something you need to tell me?

I'm not terribly crazy about him

does he know you're not that crazy about him? but perhaps wishes you were?

[atskitty2]

I have no idea what he knows or thinks. We've not been talking very long and only met a few times, and no discussion about feelings has been started. We're just getting to know each other.

I don't think it's unreasonable for him to want someone that's crazy about him. I do too.
I think his ideas about how a person demonstrates their feelings may be out of sync with mine. By a wide gap!

[amy40]

I think his ideas about how a person demonstrates their feelings may be out of sync with mine. By a wide gap!

he sounds like a younger person?
and you are a more serious person it seems

[atskitty2]

I don't remember his exact age, but we're close in age. If he's younger, it's only a couple years or so.

[amy40]

text exchange

have you talked in person since the text exchange and asked what he meant?

have found that texts, emails, and even posts on a forum often can't express total meaning
husband responds "what?" half the time with my texts and some of his emails, I don't know what he's talking about

[atskitty2]

No, I probably won't see him in person until next week.

[Ashlee T.]

I wouldn't think anything of it. It seemed like a playful exchange and even the most non-clingy of people enjoy the thought of someone being "crazy about them".

If all else was going great, this would not be a concern to me at all. But, if you have other yellow/red flags then you have to consider those too, of course.

[Texasred]

As a guy who's had a relationship with a woman who was so crazy about him she began to be a stalker, I feel like I can comment: at first, it *is* flattering to have someone that "crazy" about you - and this was a very attractive woman! - but only when "crazy" is a figure of speech, not an actual condition...
At any rate, I do believe you're over-thinking this, and the guy was only kidding about how nice it would be to have someone deeply attracted to him.

He certainly would never joke about it if he'd actually had a woman break into his place while he was asleep... with someone else.