[shweedart]

In my head I'm right.

My boyfriend, drives like an idiot. speeding, wheel spins, hand break turns...the lot! I shouldn't be scared in a car with my own bf!!
Ive told him I don't like it before and he knows how much it upsets me...I think the worst of most situations and I'm convinced that he's gonna kill himself! We had an argument about it last night and I pretty much ended it like 'Stop driving like a silly little boy' and out of spite he drove off like a complete maniac, the worst I've ever seen him. Call me crazy but I'm pretty sure you should never do anything out of spite towards your loved ones? especially over something as serious as this!


If we were in the car, crashed, and I died...how would he feel?! or If he killed someone else or a child or something... I hate to think it but that's the only way he'll ever stop is by something terrible happening.


I know I'm young, but I'd been smoking for 4 years already (started very young!! for no sodding reason..GRR at me) and we got together, he stressed how much he didn't like it so I stopped! As hard as it was for me, I had to quit smoking, because he didn't like it and it'd be the death of me. I understand completely why he didn't like it but...I really did love a cigarette! But no, i stopped. Because he didn't like it & that was when I was at risk.

Now he does something I don't like and putting other peoples lives at risk


he's such a ...............!!!!!!!!!!! It's not hard to keep to a speed limit, but its bloody hard to beat an addiction, i did it for him...is it too much to ask? of course not. But now I'm the big bad wolf for being 'moaney'

It's got to the point I can see us breaking up over it! I don't moan at him about anything! I don't ask anything of him ever...and now I am he doesn't like it. Unless he bucks his ideas up soon it's me or the sodding car

[Guest]

Hey Sis, you are fine, I would be deeply concerned too.
Maybe if you just was straight up 1 day with him and said, listen baby I'm not going with you anywhere unless you promise me to drive a little more like a sane person. ( Maybe not just that way) but you see what I'm saying, right?

When I was younger i drove faster, skidded my tires some and all that jazz but it was done in moderation. If I felt I was truly scaring someone I would have stopped. Hold to your guns!

[Guest]

yes, you are right.

but I'm also glad you quit smoking

[WildChild]

You are right, someone who cares about you doesn't endanger your life and that is what he is doing. Even if you don't break up with him. don't ride with him. If he gets in an accident not only could you be maimed or injured, you could be an accessory.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

He's acting like a rebel... with a cause... rebellious, don't tell me what to do..

Try a different tactic. Instead of I gave up this for you, and it's the same thing, danger of lives, you do this...

Try, okay - time out..... Do what you want, it's your life if i have to come to your funeral but... your not putting me in that situation... It's my life. If I am in the car, please drive sensibly or else I won't be getting into it. If you want to kill yourself that's fine, guess I will have to marry someone else one day, ....

That should make him take two steps back...

CW

[rcoreyus]

Someone died in a car wreck just outside my work today (no one I knew). Cars can be very dangerous, don't stay with someone who drives stupid. There are lots of exciting adrenaline producing things to do - driving shouldn't be one of them.

I don't want to preach - I drove like a nut when I was younger - I was looking for excitement. Now I know there are ways to get the excitement without risking other people's lives.

[silvertae]

You're totally right on this issue. I second the notion of refusing to ride in the car with him if he continues to drive like that.

[crzyredhead21]

100% right. I denied sex until mine stopped doing that. He didn't believe me but I tell you what he shaped up quick like after a few days of nothing! LOL. Now he drives much more sensibly. Not that I'm recommending you try the same tactic on your b/f but it's still an option. LOL

[Guest]

just tell him that you'll drive or meet him somewhere, and your not getting in a car with him when he is the driver.
its fun once in awhile, i did it back then, but also at certain times.
if he says not to worry try it and if he does it again when your out, get someone else to give you a ride home and make sure he sees your not kidding.
you are right 100%, its unsafe for so many. its like a drunk driver thing but instead of being drunk he's just being an idiot. times catch up if they dont see whats going on. your right, someone will get hurt or worse.
honestly, tell him to stop like you did. tell him you'll drive or meet him and not getting in a car with him unless he slows down and acts a bit mor mature. or if already out, get a ride home.
that might get him to think abit and hopefully not kill someone.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Agreed JWB.

just tell him that you'll drive or meet him somewhere, and your not getting in a car with him when he is the driver

I said the same.

Girls, Girls, Girls you said what? no sex unless?

Sorry Rcoreyus, that's sad.......

Never make ulitmatives.. Doesn't work.

CW