No how matter hot a woman is, there is always going to be someone hotter. ESPECIALLY on TV and in magazines and porn etc. There is a reason they are in the movies, they are exceptionally attractive and for us women, even beautiful women to compare ourselves to them and feel less worthy of our men because of them. Its really not a fair fight.
Those ladies on TV wear hair extensions, have make-up artists, plastic surgeons, fitness trainers, dieticians and cooks, skin experts, stylists... we are bringing waterballoons to a gunfight in that competition.
A guy can look at a pretty, hot woman and appreciate her , a thing of beauty without desiring to replace his SO with her. Without thinking less of her, at least if he is a good person and loves you.
Your man is probably not the hottest man in the world, no, but he is probably the apple of YOUR eye and that is what matters, hot or not to the rest of world is insignificant. I'm sure there are hot men popping on the TV just as much as women, guys with chizzled out abs perfect smiles and flawless hair and skin and you might go oh wow hot, in your head... but you don't look at the man on your sofa and think "rubbish!" Like the way you imagine him doing.
Give him more credit than that, he's been with you for years, he deserves it. Men don't deal with the emotions of feeling inferior to other men as often because 1. They don't have perfection rammed down their throat in the way that we do - but times they are a changin. More and more commercials for natural male enhancement, etc.
Guys tend to have way less issues with self-esteem, more acceptence of themselves. Self improvement books, diet books and plans, botox, make-up, etc... theres a bazillian dollars of advertising money (all geared at women) being spent to make us feel like we need to look better than we naturally do. Then we are exposed constantly to these flawless (and photoshopped) ladies and feel even worst about ourselves.
I watched this program where they took these women that are total 10's already and picked them apart on their itty bitty flaws that made them human and fix them up in photoshop. It makes us feel bad enough about ourselves to think we need THEIR product to improve, and sure it can give some guys unrealistic expectations. I really wish they'd leave in the cellulite, not smooth out the zits with photo paintbrushes etc so that we can see once and for all that we are not so different that those women as we think we are.
I'm rambling but the bottom line is, I do what you are doing in my head sometimes. When a woman I know is hotter than me is around my bf I feel like maybe he is looking at her wishing SHE was his gf not me. Then he treats me like a princess and I know he is happy with me.
Low self-esteem is A MONSTER. I struggle with it on a constant basis but I am aware of the downward spiral that comes from insecurity and always pep talk myself out of being upset about things that I shouldn't be.
You, yourself, know you have taken this too far... not being able to enjoy entertainment with movies , tv and even music because of your fears. You are only hurting yourself, and possibly destroying your relationship (more than possibly). He needs to help you though, he needs to provide you with some support and understanding, given your history.
If he wasn't attracted to you, he wouldnt still be there after all these years. He's into you and you know it. And you know you can't walk him around town with a blindfold , you know its not healthy. Anytime you get to feeling like he'd rather have someone from the TV make a list in your head of all the reasons he is lucky to be with you and hold those reasons close to your heart as I am sure he does.
Those ladies on TV wear hair extensions, have make-up artists, plastic surgeons, fitness trainers, dieticians and cooks, skin experts, stylists... we are bringing waterballoons to a gunfight in that competition.
A guy can look at a pretty, hot woman and appreciate her , a thing of beauty without desiring to replace his SO with her. Without thinking less of her, at least if he is a good person and loves you.
Your man is probably not the hottest man in the world, no, but he is probably the apple of YOUR eye and that is what matters, hot or not to the rest of world is insignificant. I'm sure there are hot men popping on the TV just as much as women, guys with chizzled out abs perfect smiles and flawless hair and skin and you might go oh wow hot, in your head... but you don't look at the man on your sofa and think "rubbish!" Like the way you imagine him doing.
Give him more credit than that, he's been with you for years, he deserves it. Men don't deal with the emotions of feeling inferior to other men as often because 1. They don't have perfection rammed down their throat in the way that we do - but times they are a changin. More and more commercials for natural male enhancement, etc.
Guys tend to have way less issues with self-esteem, more acceptence of themselves. Self improvement books, diet books and plans, botox, make-up, etc... theres a bazillian dollars of advertising money (all geared at women) being spent to make us feel like we need to look better than we naturally do. Then we are exposed constantly to these flawless (and photoshopped) ladies and feel even worst about ourselves.
I watched this program where they took these women that are total 10's already and picked them apart on their itty bitty flaws that made them human and fix them up in photoshop. It makes us feel bad enough about ourselves to think we need THEIR product to improve, and sure it can give some guys unrealistic expectations. I really wish they'd leave in the cellulite, not smooth out the zits with photo paintbrushes etc so that we can see once and for all that we are not so different that those women as we think we are.
I'm rambling but the bottom line is, I do what you are doing in my head sometimes. When a woman I know is hotter than me is around my bf I feel like maybe he is looking at her wishing SHE was his gf not me. Then he treats me like a princess and I know he is happy with me.
Low self-esteem is A MONSTER. I struggle with it on a constant basis but I am aware of the downward spiral that comes from insecurity and always pep talk myself out of being upset about things that I shouldn't be.
You, yourself, know you have taken this too far... not being able to enjoy entertainment with movies , tv and even music because of your fears. You are only hurting yourself, and possibly destroying your relationship (more than possibly). He needs to help you though, he needs to provide you with some support and understanding, given your history.
If he wasn't attracted to you, he wouldnt still be there after all these years. He's into you and you know it. And you know you can't walk him around town with a blindfold , you know its not healthy. Anytime you get to feeling like he'd rather have someone from the TV make a list in your head of all the reasons he is lucky to be with you and hold those reasons close to your heart as I am sure he does.
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