[Fatin]

ok u can say that im addicted to porn movies but im working on stopping it and stuff but .. i don't know if i shuld tell my boyfriend or not .. i mean i hate porn movies seriously but i found out that im addicted to it and im addicteed to it for 7 years .. but i just don't know what to do i mean i want to tell him but im scared to death of telling him cos i realy need help on this porn issue i can clear it i know but i still can't do it on my own .. HELP

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Your reading to many threads " addicted" and so you think it's wrong.

Tell us what it is you love about the sites?

It is different for everyone, as to what you get from it and why?

Plus you haven't had sexual experiences persay so this is not a married woman ignorning her man over porn.

Rather someone seeking and finding herself right?

He would probably be way turned on actually.

Your circumstances are alot different that the "porn" problems on this site sweet.

My opinion.

CW

[caterpillar79]

It all depends in the way you feel about it, but don't judge yourself. What does it do to you? Do you masturbate while watching? If you do, I don't see anything wrong about it - a lot better than getting off with random men if you know what i mean.

For as long as you take care of both you and him, and this porn doesn't interefere, you shouldn't feel guilty about it. For one, I'm 90% sure it will be a turn - on for him. Means you have that adventurous side, and might have a higher libido, which is good.

And, don't bother yourself thinking about it too much. When you find a chance, talk about it. Nothing beats open communication whe it comes to a lasting partnership, right?

[Hopeless Dork]

Theres a difference, call it hypocrisy.. I don't care lol... it probably is , or sexism at least... but there is a difference when a woman with a high drive watches porn. Women tend to have the ability to come more than once, no problem... to be turned on all day long , orgasm and be turned on again instantly. If porn isn't pushing you away from your boyfriend then I am sure he wouldn't mind.

MOST of the women that complain on here about porn, you'll note, also complain that their S.O'.s are neglecting them sexually. That they are using porn for their outlet and not interested in sex with them. Of course some men can orgasm several times a day, but if a guy has a pretty average drive, and uses porn for an outlet so often that they don't care if they touch their gf/wife ever... that is when you see the women on here going, okay he has a problem with porn.

[Fatin]

so u guys mean that if i told my boyfriend he wont be mad right?? i mean cos he once a time ask me if i see porn movies or not and i reply right away i said no ..

[WildChild]

Depends, there are some men who think that what men like souldn't be what women like. The simple fact is you like it, if he doesn't like that then you probably aren't a good match. Better to find out sooner than later. Chances are it won't bother him a bit.

[Hopeless Dork]

If you said no, he might not like the fact you lied to him.. but if its a big part of your life it might be wise to include him. I agree with wild, some men, especially old-fashion ones.. think its bad for a women to be that sexual she likes porn.

What are his values like? Does he ever seem to think other things in life are for men and not women? Honestly if he does --- he may not be the right guy for you.

If he is open minded he probably wont be too upset at the porn, but lying about it may hurt quite a bit.

But if the porn makes you MORE interested in sex with him and not LESS... I can't see why the average guy would have a problem with that.

[WildChild]

My guess would be that the lie won't be too much of a problem if you explain that you weren't comfortable discussing it at that time in your relationship. You were shy to admit it until you knew him better. Relationships take time to unfold and for trust to build. In the future it would be better to say something more honest like, I'm not quite ready to talk about that.

[Fatin]

hummm ok .. but i remember that i start asking him i said: what if i was watching porn movies? then he said: well i can't imagine girls watching porn movies cos i believe that only guys do that. then he asked me are watching porn then i replied no .. so im not afraid o that im just afraid of whats gona happened afteer that . i mean im scared after i tell him i will be a bit upset cos im not usual to talk to people about it .. i dont mean u guys but u know what i mean