[michelletudor]

where to start its so hard for me im in a relationship with my fella have been for 10 months after 4months of being together he told me he was bi sexual when we are in bed together he wants to dress up in my clothes and act out his fantasies he watches alot of lesbian and gay porn and he wants me to lick him out like im doing it to another women it freaks me out i havent got much confidence to tell him i dont like it so i just go along with it we are supposed to be moving in to a new house he has just bought and i have no idea what to do he masturbates alot of the time watching gay porn and its taking over our lives cos he just wants to do it and hardly have sex anymore we went away to torquay last week for a week and he wasnt interested at all i got sex once what should i do any advice cos i have no idea on what to do its tearing me apart please help

[WildChild]

Isn't great how they wait to spring stuff on you after you are emotionally involved? Dealing with it myself, although not with sexual orientation.
You need to start talking. Be bluntly honest. No moving in with him unless it is resloved to your satisfaction.

[Tina Lee]

I agree with WildChild.

You need to tell him what you're comfortable with, and what you're not comfortable with. Be honest with him.

But I wouldn't move in with him just yet..

[CHANDLERS WISH]

He feels lucky, he has not only managed to keep you, but also to get you to perform for him, to allow him to masterbate over the opposite sex and to dress in your clothes, yet, he has no desire to please you, to bend for you, and to share with you what you need, want out of life.

You don't have to do anything you don't want to do in life, and you certainly don't have to conform to please a man/person, if you can't be you 100% then you can't be happy so why remain in such a state of un-happiness?

CW

[ren_07]

This fascinates me. He's bisexual, but can't seem to be equally attracted to both men and women, and this is evident if he's making you not act just as yourself. It's almost like it's easier for him to have a girlfriend who pretends to be what he truly wants, which is a male partner.

These issues aren't going to go away unless he's willing to make some MAJOR changes in his routines. I can't say if he'll outgrow this, or if it'll always be something he secretly desires throughout his life. Has he ever had a boyfriend? It almost seems like he's behaving so extremely because he's never been able to let it out of his system with another guy.

It's pleasing to see you're so ok and accepting of this man. Cudos to you. But never let a man take advantage of your submissive kindness. It becomes habitual if you never say no and he won't ever feel a need to change because you're not putting up a resistance or threatening to leave. Besides, no double standards here. What's ok for him to do is ok for you to do, so make him act out YOUR fantasies for a change. Mimic his behavior and see how it makes him feel. If you already know that changing the dominance won't go over well, then I hope you see the problem.

So let step one be putting your foot down by not moving in with him just yet.

[BasketCase]

I wish we had a 'like' button. Because I would be 'liking' Ren_07's comment

[WildChild]

We do have what amounts to a 'like' button. It is the start shaped reputation button in the upper left above the post.

[WildChild]

You do realize that this thread is over a year and a half old?