[artist1633]

Like you, I had never experienced this before...didn't know how to deal with it. My patience took the better of me. Embedded in all of us is much goodness, that is what I felt in her. It is still there, but, like you wrote, it is going to take "a magical moment" to change her. Moreover, it is going to take more than a magical moment, it is going to take a immensely significant event to change her. Thanks for you input, I appreciate it. My thoughts are still with her, my best wishes continue, the proper resolution will come to fruition...whatever that may be.

[pollyprince]

Some people can not be mended. They are frozen with fear and cemented in their past. They do not even understand what pain and hurt they impose on people around them. I was in the similar situation, and my heart still aches when I am writting this. Run away from these people as they only destroy your life and they will never change.

[artist1633]

Pollyprince, thank you. if you could expand on this. what hope did you see in your significant other that caused you to continue the relationship? what awful things would they commit against you? Was it being absent? Cruel comments? etc? Please respond if it is possible, if you are still recovering then I will understand if you cannot address this in detail. This lady is cool, but the hurt she caused was only in me. The friends received the best of her. The jist of her is that she cannot give too much of herself to any one person.

[artist1633]

Ladies, my ex and I have undergone a strange change. She had not contacted me in 6 weeks. No verbal breakup, nothing. Simple disappearance.
I went to a party on Halloween. She was there and was surprised to see me. We did not talk. I did not approach her nor did I meet her eye at any point. I avoided looking at her. I could feel her gaze. I was dressed good, ladies were approaching me. I left early and as I did, I spoke with her best friend who was standing directly behind her. She knew I was standing there. I placed my hand on her back, spoke her name. She didn't turn around, she did nothing. I left feeling mild disappointment. Even at an older age, people play high school games.
I am happy, my art and music is coming along. Balance is the key. I will not go all out when the next woman comes along. My large void that has existed all my life can only be filled with inner happiness. Though my heart has a bunch of love to give...I will only give it to someone who can reciprocate it.

As for my "ex," I emailed her the following day. I declared that she did what was best for us. That it was good to breakup. I thanked her for it. I am certain she is relieved.
Readers, please take care in giving your love to heartache. It is not worth it. Emotions are so strong that they supersede logic. I fought it over 2 months. Now the feelings are getting weak. Memories are strong, but the feelings are lessening. It is a sad conclusion, but life goes on. I am look for permanent love because life is short...time runs like water, swift, stopping for no one.
Ladies...I will keep on this website, looking to help you like you have helped me. If you want my contact let me know. I send goodness and warmth from So. Cal., Godspeed to all of you.

[WildChild]

Good for you. I have a feeling you will find a lady to share your life joyfully.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Isn't it strange how those feelings slowly fade? Yet memories dont.....

I am a believer that we "hang on" to that "someone" because it seems worse to be on our own, only to establish somewhere along the line, the heartache that they actually caused, whilst "handing on", I hope that makes sense.

You could call it "settling", wanting love, believing and so refusing to leave a relationship that otherwise, is deemed, not appropriate for who we are, our hearts, our desires, our dreams....

It matters not how old we get, each is a learning curb for the next time.

I am pleased you feel this way, with sincerity as well as pleased at the way in which you chose to handle Halloween and that you could see other woman liked talking with you...

Keep to those thoughts of "you are worth it" because you are and there truly is someone for everyone in this lifetime.

If your hanging about, then I am going to suggest, we make you friends, so we can say hi from time to time as well..

So, clicking on that now...

CW

[GlitterAndStuds]

I absolutely agree with CW. It's often said that "absence makes the heart grow fonder" but in other cases, it makes your heart stop longing for something that it can't get.

I'm really glad to hear that you've realized what you deserve and that it's all for the best. You both want completely different things, and soon you will meet someone that you can be on that same page with. Exactly what you said, life is too short to be hung up on something like that.

I'm happy for you

[heatherkazek]

Seeking her out is a good and bad idea. If you seek her out...what if she is with someone else? That is only going to break your heart more but then again you will know the truth finally.

She just sounds to me like a cheat with issues...sorry but I have been there and had it done.

God speed and good luck!!!

[artist1633]

When a person is in love, it is difficult to be objective. Defending the person is easy because I am blind. With the passing of time I am beginning to see holes in my defenses.

On the other hand I protect her because of what I know about her life and her life-long hardships. I shouldn't do it, but I do. That is my burden. Today was a difficult time, I refreshed memories. Leaving work, I came home and made phone calls to keep from thinking of her.

I shouldn't of gone to the party. Immediately afterward I felt good, now...days later, I feel bad. I think the memories make it more difficult than actually seeing her. Isn't that strange?

She was sitting between two guys. It didn't bother me. Problem was that usually she ignores men who try to hit on her. That night she was talking to them...probably for my benefit.

Time isn't moving fast enough for me. They say time heals. Time please move quicker.

[caterpillar79]

How long has it been since you two drifted apart?