[stressed]

Fiance is 36, I'm 25. He acts more like a 20 year old than I do, he has started having a few health issues but we do have a good time together and get along. Age difference is not an issue, plus you avoid constant competition in your own home.

[purplehaze]

I'm 48 and the guy I was dating is 58 but a young 58. He was scared to death of his own shadow. We got along great and we would go out for several weeks and then he would just stop calling for about 4-5 weeks. Then he would get back in touch with me like nothing ever happen. The guy I am currently seeing is 38 and very mature. I just want to say I am so happy it's scary. I am OVER THE MOON and loving life.

[white ant]

Well my bf is 10 years older than me. And honestly speaking i expected a lot from him because of that. And not a lot of my expectations were not met. however we try to meet each other half way

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I have been married for 4 years.

It is not the parties I miss in fact I am a homebody.

My husband has anxiety when placed in a social situation unless they are good friends. I encourage him invite his friends over and a guy's night while I make myself scarce or have a girl's night. If I do arrange a group to come over which is rare because he does not want to see people very often, it cannot be more than two.

Yes, there are solutions to everything I agree. At this point I am tired and exhausted. I had to fight with my husband countless times before I got him into the hospital which the surgeon was very lucky because by that time one of discs ruptured.

That is not the only thing. I guess I am tired of trying to help my husband to be healthy when he does not want it.

Sorry, I missed your reply... So was this "after his injury?".. Perhaps he's feeling in-secure, and depressed..

Depression can make someone not want to be around anyone, nor belief that he can be someone again.. You need to stand tall for a little bit, it will blow over if you encourage and MAKE things happen that he doesn't want regain the life he had, make those things re-appear...

It's tough but do you give up? Because circumstances change?

Mine was purely evil, wanted me to earn and him not ever again... Wanted the easy way out... Leaving him, he found he could achieve beyond what he ever did, but that was because i stood there and taught him to but he used and abused so what do you do...

CW

[Guest]

Well my bf is 10 years older than me. And honestly speaking i expected a lot from him because of that. And not a lot of my expectations were not met. however we try to meet each other half way

What did you expect of him?

[SecretlySad]

My husband is 16 years older than me. At first I thought that age did not matter, only love but I was wrong. I found out that both love and age does matter and you have to find ways to compromise on both sides of course to make it work.

People at first would look at us in a weird way trying to figure out what it was in it for me. They liked gossiping about us but now we know who are our true friends.

Another thing, when I married my husband he was spry and energetic and now - thanks to spinal surgery he had 2 cervical discs removed - he can hardly walk. It is hard when I am young married to a man who now cannot keep up with me.

I love him with all my heart by my mind weighs heavily on our relationship.

Hi Betty

I am in a similar situation and I have recently come to realise myself that, as the song goes "sometimes love just ain't enough".

My partner is 44 and I am 27. Although he has no health problems, my mind also weighs heavily on our relationship - see my thread:

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19855-age-difference-has-become-issue-me-after-5-years.html

It goes off track and on to more personal things at times in the thread, but take a look anyway. I would love to talk if you'd like. It's always really comforting to come across people in similar situations. I couldn't find a way to pm you (I am not very computer savvy I'm afraid!) but if you want to pm me please feel free.

[Kerry boo]

My boyfriend is 11 years older than me, I'm 26 and he's 37. The age gap thing doesn't bother me one bit, i actually find the fact that he's older a huge turn on. He's more mature and a wonderful lover, we get on really well to and have similar intrests. He actually worries about it more than i do, i think that's down to feeling insecure tho,( his ex treated him like dirt). We sometimes get looks of people, but i think that's because i'm a bit taller than him not because of the age gap lol. We all deserve to be happy and you can't help who you fall for x

[Perfect!!! For a Designer]

Im 17 and i have just started dating something who is 25 nearly 26....
I really like him but everyone just says it weird and that he's only after one thing....

It's not really a big age diffence compared to you but people can be really hurtful when they don't understand why your going out....

We have only just atarted going out and i hope it gets better....

[WildChild]

Sweetie at you age 8 years is a HUGE difference. Just think if it were the other direction - would you date a 9 yr old? He is finished with school, out in the working world, should be self supporting...why do you think someone that age would want to date someone your age?

I'm not saying this absolutely won't work. Depending on the people it's possible, but not probable. Not in this day and age. Be very, very careful.

[sallyskellington]

My husband is 16 years older than me. At first I thought that age did not matter, only love but I was wrong. I found out that both love and age does matter and you have to find ways to compromise on both sides of course to make it work.

People at first would look at us in a weird way trying to figure out what it was in it for me. They liked gossiping about us but now we know who are our true friends.

Another thing, when I married my husband he was spry and energetic and now - thanks to spinal surgery he had 2 cervical discs removed - he can hardly walk. It is hard when I am young married to a man who now cannot keep up with me.

I love him with all my heart by my mind weighs heavily on our relationship.

Betty. I actually had the same surgery done (Acdf. *Anterior cervical disectomy and fusion*) in august of 08. I had my C5/6 C6/7 fused. And I will tell you the biggest benefit to my recovery and where I am today was yoga. I feel it did way more then physical therapy ever did. So maybe get your husband into a yoga class or get a wii and get the the wii fit yoga. *I'm not a fan of yoga dvd's* I will tell you it did wonders for me. I am mainly pain free and only have the 5 degree limitaion on axis do to the surgery.
Good luck