[Guest]

He cheated the second he made the decision to go to the girl's house.

Lose him.

[rcoreyus]

Cheating is whatever YOU think it is. What you do about it is up to you.

[Fallen1]

Cheating is something you wouldn't dare do with someone else if your lover was looking.

He definitely cheated.

I never thought of it that way. That's a good way to look at it.

Him hiding the fact he was going over there should tell you that he thought there was something wrong with it.

Even if you put the cheating issue aside he's proven he has no problem lying to you. That alone would be enough for me to question whether or not the relationship was even worth having.

[Hopeless Dork]

Cheating is something you wouldn't dare do with someone else if your lover was looking.

He definitely cheated.

I agree... what an awesome definition. It's something we should all consider when out and about in the world - behave the way you would if your SO was watching.

[Sandra_does]

mailko...

The DORK is right and Chandler spells it with lesser words... You know what cheating is as well as anyone here, so what you are really asking is if you should take him back, right...?

How old are you...do you have children...will anyone suffer if you leave him...?

If leaving will hurt no one but him then leave him fast and don't be conned again...

WHY...? "Because he pre-planned this event" and has probably been having fantasies of her while with you."

There is no second guessing, no second chances and no guarrantee this leopard will ever change his spots...!

Get out of it before the situation burries you as he is just using you for his own entertainment...what will happen if you get pregnant...?

Need I say more...do what's right for YOU, not what's right for him...!

Sandra_does

[Karma3]

Some guys don't think that getting a blow job by some other dame other than then their S/O is cheating either, so I guess as long as there is no penetration involved it can't be considered cheating?

Hahahaha....ya right!

[WildChild]

Hmmm, unless you confine yourself to licking, you've got part of his body inside part of your body - that sounds like penetration.

[Karma3]

Yes, I totally agree Wildchild, but they think the same as teenagers today.....
Teenagers are taught in sex-ed class in highschool that having unprotected sex can lead to STD's. "Sex" to teenagers is "screwing", and alot of teenagers today don't consider performing oral sex to be "having sex" and don't think that you can get STD's from it. I'll bet there's alot of teenagers out there that could tell you that they are virgins (and probably are) but yet if asked if they've performed oral sex, their answer would be yes.

Anyway....
In my opinion oral sex is SEX and doing this with anyone other than your S/O is cheating
Kissing, fondling, "making out" is sexual, which is still cheating.

[mdraven380]

yes he cheated

[athina]

I feel that he did cheat on me and he says that cheating only includes sex. Whether he thinks it was cheating on me or not he still knows he hurt me and betrayed my trust and that he ed up...mostly I am asking to prove to him that it was cheating...

Hes trying to make you believe that he did not cheat on you. Look, when you're with someone, and you love them, you should be able to control yourself when you are around someone else that you may be attracted to because you know deep down that you love the person that you are with, and wouldn't want to hurt them. If hes going to cheat on you, let him..becasue you dont need someone who is going to do that to you anyways. The reason why hes firm on not having sex with her is because he knows that is his only card to still being with you. You dont have to prove anything to him, you are the victim here. It should be him proving things to you, not vice versa. I think you'd be wrong to still be with him. Yes, I know you're probably still in love with him, but its not worth possibly going through that type of pain again. Besides, theres probably someone who looks as good, makes you feel as good, and can treat you 10x better than he did. Don't waste your time, hun.