[WildChild]

Why aren't you finacially stable without him? Five years there and you can't afford not to live in his parents house. Sounds it may be time for a change of life? Move home, new job, work on be coming independent and self supporting. If he wants you, he'll know where to find you.

[drgnfly]

i have asked him many times to flat out tell me what he wants and he says i dont know, says he loves me but isnt sure what he wants. It has gotten to the point he just stays at his sister house so he dosent have to talk.

and the not being stable enough i recently bought a new car since i knew i could pay it in the situation i am in and if he and i moved out. But not on my own. I have a great job with good pay its more then twice min wage but i live in a very expensive area and make to much the get the appartments i can afford.

[drgnfly]

I asked him tonight if he just didnt care anymore and he got upset and said that he never said that but he just isnt sure what he wants.... And guys say we are indecisive and complicated. I just feel after 5 years he has to know if there is anything he wants to work for or if there is nothing left in the relationship to work on...

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well, try this then.

You have a car, you have hobbies right? Start one, start a gym as well while your at it, in other words, start now, living your life more..

It will one let him have time out, two let him see if he misses you and three, give you a chance to obtain some independence.

but i live in a very expensive area and make to much the get the appartments i can afford

Sorry, that doesn't make sense.

CW

[drgnfly]

It will one let him have time out, two let him see if he misses you and three, give you a chance to obtain some independence.



Sorry, that doesn't make sense.

CW

The area i live in is expensive but there are some areas that are not as expensive which i could afford but they are on a waiting list and you have to make a certin amount montly they do a check with your employer and my income is to high.

[drgnfly]

sorry not very good with forums... That was in response to

"but i live in a very expensive area and make to much the get the appartments i can afford"

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Goodness...

As I have Property Managment attached to my business, if someone earnt too much I would be taking them "immediately", knowing my Landlord was safe.

You definately have to move, lol.

Okay, I've run out of suggestions, ....

CW

[ladywolf]

Hi Dragonfly--

Remember, we create our own traps and only WE are able to get ourselves out of them. If you want change, you have to be willing to MAKE change. I feel for you, I really do, but I think you're erecting a lot of roadblocks to making changes in your life!

Ladywolf--Margi

[WildChild]

Ah Ladywolf, you hit the nail on the head and don't we all do this!

[abeja_reina_1989]

Omg! First off I want to say that I am sooo sooo sorry to hear what you've went through with him. I know it's tough, but honestly, I think you deserve better than him. He hasn't been there for you when you needed him and it seems like he was just using you or he wasn't sure what he wanted.

I think you're better off alone.