[stressed]

My advice: Start looking for a real boyfriend meanwhile, otherwise you will never be able to get out of this. Find a friend (male), open up and see where it takes you. It's an addiction and the only way to be saved from it is to find someone who can drag you out of there. I've seen this happening before.

[Karina]

I think there is plenty single guys around to play with, but a married man no way your a woman, just imagine you were the wife, that hurts. I can't imagine my self having a affair
and thinking that he is now with his wife, sleeping to together, having sex, talking about the future, going to out. while you in your house just waiting for him to get horny or want to try something different. Realize that's not nice or happyness your like a toy for him.
Move on

K

[Guest]

wow...man...all i have to say is that. if you were the other woman with my boyfriend. i would beat your to the ground so bad that you would not do that to anyone not available person. and i dont mean it in a offensive way. but you have to end it. you like it or not. he is married! and i honestly do not like woman like that. dont know why you do it in the first place. think how you would feel if you were the wife shoes

oh really? i would just dump the guy.
it was THE GUY who cheated,THE GUY who broke vows, THE GUY who doesnt care about the one he is supposed to love.
but its always easier to blame the other woman,and continue a relationship with a man who will just cheat again with someone else.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Ive been seeing someone for around 5 months now and we have a lot of fun but hes married. Ive known from day 1 and I always thought when we met it would be a quick, random thing ( I know this doesnt make me sound great but...) Anyway somehow 5 months passed and here we are still having this "relationship"
I dont know what to do, I know we aren't meant to be together and I know he will never leave his wife, I know I should run for the hills BUT there is something there. I know ill have to end it sooner or later but right now it doesnt seem like the right time. I just feel so guilty for what im doing, I have my own reasons and most of the time Im ok with it but some days I feel like such a . I dont know what to do, ending it isnt so simple

I appreciate the replies and I guess by posting on here I open myself up to the harsh words. Saying that though this guy is not a scumbag and if you got that impression from earlier posts, im very sorry. He doesnt force me to do anything, he never has and never will. Simply not that kind of guy so yeh hes a sh%t because he cheats on his wife but this situation isnt so black and white and im very well aware what goes around comes around, and ive had the cheating, the hitting, the lying so yes im very much aware of people are capable of

So?

Remember... You posted this thread because it was eating at you and you wanted thoughts, you probably hoped that those thoughts would allow you to finalise things now...

Your last reply?

Nup.. Thanks everyone. Bye, I'm staying... so your going through that second phase of denial, can't do it.

I hope you can live the yoyo live your putting yourself in. You've made the comments, should I? Nup, I won't.... yoyo....

Harsh? Post this on another site and you'd be ripped to bits, here it's not allowed, opinions only.

Close your eyes and see someone with you 24/7 when ever you want and how that feels.

Now, close your eyes and see him having sex with his wife, because he does.

Which picture was better?

CW

[tasha1133]

I appreciate the replies and I guess by posting on here I open myself up to the harsh words. Saying that though this guy is not a scumbag and if you got that impression from earlier posts, im very sorry. He doesnt force me to do anything, he never has and never will. Simply not that kind of guy so yeh hes a sh%t because he cheats on his wife but this situation isnt so black and white and im very well aware what goes around comes around, and ive had the cheating, the hitting, the lying so yes im very much aware of people are capable of

honey, you sound like you're in denial, i wish you would listen to the people here who are giving you good advice. you are just going to end up hurting yourself while you have guilt eating you inside out. really open your eyes!

[Hopeless Dork]

Blondie... search the site for "my husband is cheating on me" or things of that nature. Read the pain and torment these women are going through. You probably do your level best not to think about what this man's wife feels like, what with being a human with a conscience and all --- but do it. Let yourself understand that its not some object he's cheating on with you... its a living breathing woman with FEELINGS. One that he promised in front of God and all his loved ones to be faithful to.

A lot of mistress' will say -- oh but I am not the one cheating, he is , not me I didnt promise anyone anything. True, in a way but men will only be as disrespectful low down dirty cheats as other women allow them to be. He's shown you that he can't keep a promise, he's shown you that he is ruled by his penis, he's shown you he can lie without remorse, he can lead a double life... etc etc I could go on and on with all the qualities or lack of quality rather he displayed by just getting involved withyou in the first place.

[PJhavinfunagain]

I appreciate the replies and I guess by posting on here I open myself up to the harsh words. Saying that though this guy is not a scumbag and if you got that impression from earlier posts, im very sorry. He doesnt force me to do anything, he never has and never will. Simply not that kind of guy so yeh hes a sh%t because he cheats on his wife but this situation isnt so black and white and im very well aware what goes around comes around, and ive had the cheating, the hitting, the lying so yes im very much aware of people are capable of

you are in denial beyond belief...

He is cheating on his wife... to me that is the definition of scumbag.

You have been cheated on so that makes it OK? You more than anyone should know how much it stinks! When I was cheated on I was determined to NOT be responsible for making anyone go thru that.

It is balck and white... What you are doing is wrong... you said it yourself. Stop!

[happy ending]

sweetie i didnt really read any harsh comments, but if you are staying, you will end up hurt and yes he is cheating on you with his wife and he is cheating on her with you. i appreciate you cant see that at the moment, but i hope you leave before he gets caught because it will happen and then you will feel like absolute scum. and i think you are worth more than that.

[AloneNtheCrowd]

I don't agree with all of it but Basschic makes some good points, simply put, if he wants to really be with you and truely loves you he can get a divorce, but I agree with everyone else that you deserve to be more than a side person, unless that's all you want and can except that. A lot of men and women only want a good time, someone to be with without the strings. From your feelings of guilt it doesnt sound like that to me.

YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON, we all get caught up and/or make mistakes, some of the best people I have been blessed to know have cheated and been the other man or woman... it happens. No I dont like it either, I personally just don't want you to getting used by some jerk... I was separated when I met my GF, but I made sure to NOT go home to my now ex wife, and get that divorce, not just promise to. If the wife has gone wrong or isn't meeting his needs and you are there is no reason for him to not take action... if you are not meeting all of his needs then he is jerk for using you to fill the gaps while not really wanting to leave her. I hope you can see though it all to the truth.

[adreamwithu]

stop this right now. remember if he si decieving his wife, then he may decieve u also.