[Guest]

Man I keep saying zzzzzzzzz I'm going to bed it's midnight

K, going to bed.

Well, I wouldn't go shopping, I would pull an excuse at the last minute well a couple of hrs at least before, as first step... Tell her to go though, act nice, have fun, type of thing, family matters.

Jogging, for 1 week go.. then pull just one day, same, a reason, so she starts to 1) miss you and 2) your all of a sudden not always there.

I don't want to look like I'm suggesting a "game" plan to win her... okay.. cause she has a man. And, I'm a bit pertered on that.

But for your own self worth and for you to ascertain her true feelings....

So there is a sense of ahha...

CW

Get to bed, your shift is over.

Then you can wake up and see all the drama Dr. OTYA has caused.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Get to bed, your shift is over.

Then you can wake up and see all the drama Dr. OTYA has caused.

lmao - WHERE though? I'm awake, it's morning, lol.

[AlleyWay]

It's apparent that you care about this girl and that won't change no matter what anyone says. OTYA has keep it real with you though. But my point of view is that if you really want this girl no matter what her situation is you have to make an ultimatum with this girl, because in the end it's no fair to you. I mean she is really getting the best of both world's. She hangs with you all the time and obviously likes you alot then goes home to a guy that she is obviously comfortable with. At this rate you'll be in the same situation 6 months from now. There are PLENTY of fish in the sea. Sometimes you have to reel it in and cast again.

[Akkiben]

AlleyWay- I've been thinking on the same lines...but how to give the ultimatum is what i'm not yet sure about. A lill' help on that would be of great help.

Others- She's been calling me about our jogging plans, i dono wat to say.
Over the weekend i wanted to go on a drive its been long since we've gone for one...thought of talking it over with her during that time.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

See, she's arguing with her man over and over, and mainly, probably about you... So maybe he's not a jerk? Maybe the arguements are his personal thoughts of her running of with another man, cute photos but I hope he's shorter and smaller

Is it not plausable then to use this as the excuse?

You don't want to create drama and fighting in her life, over you....maybe you shouldn't hang out as often......after all you have a boyfriend and obviously I'm reacted trouble to a degree.... If you get "but, but, but, what does that tell you? Then simply say, " So you'd miss me huh".. and laugh... You should be able to read body language.

But ultimately... You then have to let her know that if she wanted to take it further with you, now's her chance, or else your cool with "hanging out" but you also need to start to "hang out" with other girls, and see what's out there for you.

It should throw her for a loop I think.

[Akkiben]

cute photos but I hope he's shorter and smaller

Hehehe...thanks CW...yep definetly smaller...not even muscled or chiselled like me...lol

Then simply say, " So you'd miss me huh".. and laugh... You should be able to read body language.

But ultimately... You then have to let her know that if she wanted to take it further with you, now's her chance, or else your cool with "hanging out" but you also need to start to "hang out" with other girls, and see what's out there for you.

It should throw her for a loop I think.

Misses me for sure...can make that out. Wants me...has told me that i'm someone she would like to "possess" but how is what she does not.
Hope its just not possession she is after..:-D

Yup...i'm all decided to let her know that 'now is her chance to make things progress between us' else i'm gone for good:-)

Yes CW, will start hanging out with other girls...one of them is gonna be back in town, she's out for the holidays. She was all over me sometime back...i could always rework that magic with that other girl...should things not work out here...but not before letting the current one know.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Awwwe what a gentleman...

Remember what someone else wrote about religion...

So if she does open up and talk from your "statement", then don't be suprised if she also has a fear of family, it's not about 3rd relationship not going right and going for the 4th, it's about, "oh yeah well I left him but meet AKBEN, he's my new boyfriend",
"what? in 1 week?" "oh know we've been hanging out forever, walks, bike, jogging, drives and me ex knew"..

See the problem there?

lol..

Just saying beware that it maybe a valid reason why she's at where she is at if she actually likes you more..

CW