[ThexMrs]

Hmm, well maybe he was surprised and didn't know how to handle that. Let's face it, that doesn't happen very often. Did he sound less than enthused about it?

No, he didn't seem unenthused by it. He was definitely surprised. I don't know what to think. I honestly don't think that he is serious so I told him that if he wasn't serious about it and only said it to make me happy that he needs to break up with me and he didn't say anything. I told him again, you need to break up with me if you don't mean it and still he said nothing.

So... I was joking around with him today and I said, "Well when you're at dinner tonight (with his sister and her family) you can bring up the fact that you're engaged now." He said, "I'll see if it comes up." Then he laughed.

Men...

[blowfish]

17 months early? wow my husband only need 3-4 month to propose me
i'm agree with glitter, maybe he kind a surprise maybe u should take a few days to brought that issue again and see how is he react....if he avoid the subject then u got the clue...

[GlitterAndStuds]

No, he didn't seem unenthused by it. He was definitely surprised. I don't know what to think. I honestly don't think that he is serious so I told him that if he wasn't serious about it and only said it to make me happy that he needs to break up with me and he didn't say anything. I told him again, you need to break up with me if you don't mean it and still he said nothing.

So... I was joking around with him today and I said, "Well when you're at dinner tonight (with his sister and her family) you can bring up the fact that you're engaged now." He said, "I'll see if it comes up." Then he laughed.

Men...

Haha.. men, indeed. Well he doesn't sound opposed to it. Give him a little bit to let it sink it and get excited about it

[Guest]

So maybe OTYA is right... I got the yes but really... It's not the answer desired seeing as how I think he only said it to make me happy.

De ja vu?

I think that's twice I've heard that this week. And from two different women to boot?

XMISS - I think if you're interested in making a quick recovery from this one, next time you talk to Mr. Marty you might want to tell him you're only in it for the ring.

[ThexMrs]

Haha. That's funny OTYA!

I already talked to him though. We're not engaged. He took it back and said, "You live across the country baby." So... That was enough for me. If that is STILL the issue then he's not serious about moving here and I'm letting it go. We're obviously not meant to be together. A man that loves you, really loves you, will do whatever it takes to be with you and he's not ready to step up to the plate and I'm done waiting.

[Guest]

A man that loves you, really loves you, will do whatever it takes to be with you and he's not ready to step up to the plate and I'm done waiting.

Yep. Couldn't have said it better myself.

And a man that really loves and wants you will ask you to marry them.

Now this I know from experience....not just playing the devil's advocate here.

[ThexMrs]

Yep... His love really isn't in question though to be honest. I know he loves me but obviously he doesn't love me enough. I don't know... I'm not even sure how I feel. I never thought he'd say yes so when he did, like I said, I didn't take him seriously. Glad I didn't because I think I would be even more heartbroken right now. I'm in love with him. He's the one that I want to spend the rest of my life with. I don't know how to get over him, how to let him go, I just know that I need to.

[Guest]

I don't know how to get over him, how to let him go, I just know that I need to.

First you have to decide its over.

Then time will help.

[caterpillar79]

Yep... His love really isn't in question though to be honest. I know he loves me but obviously he doesn't love me enough. I don't know... I'm not even sure how I feel. I never thought he'd say yes so when he did, like I said, I didn't take him seriously. Glad I didn't because I think I would be even more heartbroken right now. I'm in love with him. He's the one that I want to spend the rest of my life with. I don't know how to get over him, how to let him go, I just know that I need to.

I'm sorry to learn about this, X. Give it time. Do you mean letting go as in breakingup with him, or just letting go of the issue. Just a point of clarification.

[ThexMrs]

I mean letting go of the relationship completely. The more the words lingered around in my head tonight, the worse I've felt. It doesn't help that I'm house sitting and am completely alone.