Well I did tell him and it all went okay, thank god. I don't know why I expected him to be mad when I brought it up but he wasn't... he was just afraid I was gonna be mad at HIM.
We were sitting on the couch and I just asked if I could talk to him about something, then said I knew he was there. He kind of stopped and looked confused, but asked how, and I told him. He explained that he was getting crickets (ew) and he hadn't seen her in a long time so he went there, also to try and sell her tickets to the show she's supposedly going to (So KY, to answer your question, the show hasn't happened yet, haha. It's in a couple of weeks).
I was very calm about it and so was he. I already knew deep down that he didn't tell me because he wanted to spare my feelings, but I still asked why he didn't tell me. And he laughed a little and said it was because I had been talking about her right before and he felt like I would get mad if he told me right then. I explained that by talking about her, I was trying to give him an opportunity to tell me the truth. He apologized up and down, saying he knew I didn't like her but didn't know I would get that upset by it. I told him I wasn't mad at him, but he can't lie to me and we need to always count on each other to be honest. And that I didn't want him to think I didn't trust him, but that it was bothering me so much I had to say something.
He even said "Ooh, so THAT'S why you were acting so weird the other day..." But he hugged me and said he loves me and that I have to stop worrying because I'm the only person for him. I think he was really relieved that I wasn't stomping around, waving my arms and yelling or something, haha.
Later I told him that I'll never tell him what to do, or who he can or can't hang out with. He knows what I'd prefer, haha...but I still wouldn't do that. I even said "If you're gonna go visit her, fine... but just tell me. I'm not gonna get mad and I don't want you feeling like you have to hide things from me". And I'm pretty sure he understands. I know I feel a TON better.
It got a little long, but I wanted to catch you guys up. I appreciate the push to talk about it, because I'm terrible at confrontation and having talks like that. Sometimes I forget that he's a full grown adult that won't jump down my throat for not liking something. Hopefully there won't be anything left to talk about as far as this situation goes, haha.
We were sitting on the couch and I just asked if I could talk to him about something, then said I knew he was there. He kind of stopped and looked confused, but asked how, and I told him. He explained that he was getting crickets (ew) and he hadn't seen her in a long time so he went there, also to try and sell her tickets to the show she's supposedly going to (So KY, to answer your question, the show hasn't happened yet, haha. It's in a couple of weeks).
I was very calm about it and so was he. I already knew deep down that he didn't tell me because he wanted to spare my feelings, but I still asked why he didn't tell me. And he laughed a little and said it was because I had been talking about her right before and he felt like I would get mad if he told me right then. I explained that by talking about her, I was trying to give him an opportunity to tell me the truth. He apologized up and down, saying he knew I didn't like her but didn't know I would get that upset by it. I told him I wasn't mad at him, but he can't lie to me and we need to always count on each other to be honest. And that I didn't want him to think I didn't trust him, but that it was bothering me so much I had to say something.
He even said "Ooh, so THAT'S why you were acting so weird the other day..." But he hugged me and said he loves me and that I have to stop worrying because I'm the only person for him. I think he was really relieved that I wasn't stomping around, waving my arms and yelling or something, haha.
Later I told him that I'll never tell him what to do, or who he can or can't hang out with. He knows what I'd prefer, haha...but I still wouldn't do that. I even said "If you're gonna go visit her, fine... but just tell me. I'm not gonna get mad and I don't want you feeling like you have to hide things from me". And I'm pretty sure he understands. I know I feel a TON better.
It got a little long, but I wanted to catch you guys up. I appreciate the push to talk about it, because I'm terrible at confrontation and having talks like that. Sometimes I forget that he's a full grown adult that won't jump down my throat for not liking something. Hopefully there won't be anything left to talk about as far as this situation goes, haha.
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