[Ahryin]

I'm so happy most of my fav people are on here...

Ok..here we go

So if you have been dating for almost 2 years lets just say a year and a half to be on the safe side and things are going good...you haven't met his mother and he hasn't asked what does that mean? Does it mean anything? Does it mean "he just isn't that into you" *even though he seems to be VERY into you*


Advice in 3.......2......1....GO

[sourpuss]

Depends on where his mother lives in relation to where you two live. How often does he see her, how close are they, etc.

[Ahryin]

The mother lives with him and its about a hr ride

[sourpuss]

hmm, so you've never been to his house when she is home?
What's their relationship like?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Mmmmm, so many reasons hun.

She could be old fashioned, her own place, so her own space, he may feel un-comfortable showing you her home as it's his home and not boyish, rather, feminine full of oldy stuff and be, embarrased.

Why not ask to meet her for dinner at the local near his place? And, see what he states in that regard?

Or, simply talk about her, see if you can gleen what sort of person she is, his house, how he lives. He may purely respect that it's "her" house..

Although he should be a batchelor and get out there and experience his own taste in life, ....

CW

[the wench]

that seems strange especially as he lives at home still...maybe you could just drop by unannounced 1 day?

[Ahryin]

He was saving for a house he just purchased closer to me and she will be moving there with him for a certain period of time for what ever reason they have a close relationship but I have been to the house he purchased but not there apt.

I asked once and don't really remember what he said but he did say he didn't have an issue with me meeting her but at the point it was water under the bridge time has passed and i'm wondering whats up? If I should be concerned, he has met my mother and interacts with her often. I do not interact with his mother (even though I have never made an attempt to...don't even know how to go about it)

[Sprite]

Try talking to him about it again. Let him know how you feel. Then you can discuss from there on how he feels about you meeting his mom, but also try and find out if his mom has ever wanted to meet you, if she even knows about you, or asks about you, etc.

[Karma3]

It could be that he doesn't want you to see the apartment which they live in, since that would technically not make him independent. How old is he? How old is his mother?

On the negative side, she might be a very controlling mother that has raised a son to "not be able to do things in life without her permission". Maybe any girl that has previously met her has never met her standards. A prying, medalling mother that once you meet her you might wish that you never did.
Sorry.....this sounds all too familiar!

[happy ending]

It could be that he doesn't want you to see the apartment which they live in, since that would technically not make him independent. How old is he? How old is his mother?

On the negative side, she might be a very controlling mother that has raised a son to "not be able to do things in life without her permission". Maybe any girl that has previously met her has never met her standards. A prying, medalling mother that once you meet her you might wish that you never did.
Sorry.....this sounds all too familiar!

i agree with karma3, he might feel if she hasnt met you cant pick you apart and criticise everything you do, all in a super sweet kindly voice of course. there's a lot of it about.