[jj012]

I like my bestfriend and he told me he likes me but he has a girlfriend. He says he likes me more than her but yet he is still with her. He says he doesnt want to mess up our friendship, but yet he says he wants to be with me realy bad. I'm really tired of waiting on him, i still dont understand why he is with her. My other friend says that i should leave him alone but its not as easy as it sounds. I really dont know what to do plzzz help

[Mes T]

You wanna be with someone who would date a girl who he doesn't like as much as his best female friend? What makes you think he won't do the same to you, if you end up dating him?

In any case, I agree with your friends, you should leave it alone for now. You don't want to participate in someone else's possible cheating. It's as bad as doing it yourself.

[Sprite]

I was in a very similar situation!

The guy didn't do a thing about it, and eventually I got over him. He still aparently likes me now, but I've moved on...he still has a girlfriend by the way. So, as far as I'm concerned he can stay with her.

[kygirl]

I have to agree with everyone else...it's bad news...been there, done that. I never dated them while they had the girlfriend, but I remember hearing the pining away about wanting to be with me, and then when he had me, he blew me off like all the others...

And if he doesn't want to be with her, he shouldn't be. Regardless of whether he has you as a backup plan...

good luck

[Guest]

i dont understand why you are "waiting on him". do you want him as a bestfriend (or even just a friend), or do you want to be involved with him? how long have you two been best friends? how long has been dating this other person?

if you two do end up hooking up and it goes wrong, will you be ok with losing your best friend?

what do you really want?

[Ahryin]

Ok..I've actually had my best friend leave his girl and date me. I messed up I admit that openly but she never trusted us before (when we weren't doing anything) and still doesn't know but now has forbidden him from speaking me threatening to take his son away. So my suggestion...just stay friends. Some times you need those friendships to stay friendships! I miss my friend..like really really miss him and I know he isn't as happy as he could be with me (even though I'm happier elsewhere) but its whats best. Some times whats best doesn't always make sense. Its better to have him in your life as a friend then as nothing at all. Also think about this...if it doesn't work out..you loose not only a boyfriend but a best friend...think about it

[jj012]

thankyou, u all really helped me with my decision

[jj012]

i dont understand why you are "waiting on him". do you want him as a bestfriend (or even just a friend), or do you want to be involved with him? how long have you two been best friends? how long has been dating this other person?

if you two do end up hooking up and it goes wrong, will you be ok with losing your best friend?

what do you really want?

umm we have been bestfriends for a year or 2. He has been goin out with this girl for 2 months.
and no i wont be ok if i lose him, hes my bestie i tell him basicly everything.
i want to be involved in him but im affraid of losing him

[Guest]

so how do you think you are going to proceed, or what are you going to do?

[jj012]

so how do you think you are going to proceed, or what are you going to do?

i really dont know....but right now i think im just goin to remain friends unless something happens, but besides that i dont kno