[mdraven380]

Thanks for letting me vent. I know everyone means well.
My sister and friends are sick of hearing it from me. I do understand why though.
I just can't seem to change my patteren.

This hurts so much!

[happy ending]

i cant really help with advice, but i am sympathising big time, do you really think you cant do better than this?

[mdraven380]

i cant really help with advice, but i am sympathising big time, do you really think you cant do better than this?

I'm not sure. I'm trying not to let him convince me that I'm a bad person.

[mdraven380]

I just feel like he is doing things to make me so angry that I will leave so he doesn't have to look like the bad guy.
I have to go to bed soon.
I only had 7 hours of sleep in the passed two days.
To top it off I feel down my steps saturday morning.
There is new carpeting on my steps and I had only slept 3 hours when my cat woke me up and wanted fed. I caught myself before I fell face first so just my arms are bruised up.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Be positive remember, if someone doesn't like something about you, it's their problem, isn't it..

You just have to decide whether or not it's constructive, realistic, is worth compromising over or not.

It may be a good idea, to write down all the things you like and don't like about him as well and view that.

Sometimes, we continue to attract people that we're not as compatible as we would like to be with, as it was chemistry to start with or that we really need someone in our lives.

If it's for those reasons and that's what you conclude, then at least you don't have to wear your heart on a string, you can stay for those reasons, but you can also continue looking without sexuality, just purely looking until you find your match..sweet.

[mdraven380]

Be positive remember, if someone doesn't like something about you, it's their problem, isn't it..

You just have to decide whether or not it's constructive, realistic, is worth compromising over or not.

It may be a good idea, to write down all the things you like and don't like about him as well and view that.

Sometimes, we continue to attract people that we're not as compatible as we would like to be with, as it was chemistry to start with or that we really need someone in our lives.

If it's for those reasons and that's what you conclude, then at least you don't have to wear your heart on a string, you can stay for those reasons, but you can also continue looking without sexuality, just purely looking until you find your match..sweet.

the funny thing is that I don't really even feel our sex life is that great.
From the beginning I can remeber telling him to move his and a certain way and pretty much repremanded me while we were in the act saying that he will do things his way. I thought wow, that's the first time a man ever told me that, Usually they are willing to please and try to make a woman happy.
I told him the other day that chivalry wasn't dead and he said "what about what a woman can do for a man''? he was really angry and said it works both ways. I said don't I show you I care by buying food and cooking it for him and the kids then cleaning up the dishes.
I always seem to end up with guys who are in dier straights. little or no money when they can tell me about vacations they took theirs girlfreinds and kis on and how their ex's never had to pay for anything but yet he keeps telling me it's my turn to buy him a beer.

[WildChild]

Been there. Was talking with a friend about this earlier today - the why do I always get the payback when I'm not the one who burned them?

[pretzel]

I just feel like he is doing things to make me so angry that I will leave so he doesn't have to look like the bad guy.
I have to go to bed soon.
I only had 7 hours of sleep in the passed two days.
To top it off I feel down my steps saturday morning.
There is new carpeting on my steps and I had only slept 3 hours when my cat woke me up and wanted fed. I caught myself before I fell face first so just my arms are bruised up.

I agree.

His selfishness and narcissism will never allow him to accept any responsibility. Remember, he feels he's better than you.

If you haven't already done so, please read up on narcissism. I hate to say this, but I think you'll see alot of him in there.

[mdraven380]

I agree.

His selfishness and narcissism will never allow him to accept any responsibility. Remember, he feels he's better than you.

If you haven't already done so, please read up on narcissism. I hate to say this, but I think you'll see alot of him in there.

Every BF I've ever had is a narcissit it seems like. I don't recognize it until a few months into it.
I never called him back last night and refuse to.
I'm exhausted, but at least I slept well last night.
for now I'm off to work.

[pretzel]

Every BF I've ever had is a narcissit it seems like. I don't recognize it until a few months into it.

Well, fwiw, you're not alone.

Best we can do is keep trying til we get it right.