[sourpuss]

If that's the truth and no one is willing to acknowledge it, at this point the only thing you have control over is limiting your time around him and not allowing him to affect you.

[tritonalum07]

I know exactly how you feel about this one. My boyfriend is a recovering alcoholic and his brother doesn't give a....poop. He brings alcohol around all the time (even if it's just beer, my bf doesn't need the temptation), makes comments when my boyfriend refuses in front of the whole family (he's not "allowed" to--referring to me even though my bf personally wants to stop drinking because he's seen the damage it can do to people), etc. To his brother, I'm just the controlling beezy who took away his drinking buddy. Oh, and he doesn't pay rent or buy anything for the house....though somehow he has the money to buy beer whenever he wants. Interesting? He's such a bully though, that no one will stand up to him. If he ever called me a foul name though and my bf found out about it, all would break loose. Just laugh about it in your mind: he clearly feels bad about himself, so he has to bring other people down. He's like a school yard bully. How sad for him.

[kurisupiaisukuriimu]

Indeed. He goes to China for his father's business [his whole family is Chinese to be exact], but he came back on yesterday. >.> My boyfriend told me that his brother got a green card to live in HK. I can only hope to God that he moves there and stays there too. x_X

In the meantime, I will try to do things to help my anger. I feel as though just because I am angry over this, it is carrying in my behavior over to other things. My bf and my mom have noticed. I wish I could just relax...not so easy when I just carry all this baggage y'know? I can have a really hard time forgiving people...so, I have no idea how to work it out with myself sometimes.

His brother did buy food for us all the time though. But I know it was only because of my bf. My bf goes over to his house to visit too. I really hate it. Because his brother hasn't quit smoking weed, so I'm so effin paranoid that my bf could pick it back up once more. I'm trying to trust him...but you know it's hard to trust my bf sometimes, because he's lied about stopping before. -.-"

Gosh, it seems like the problems never end on my end. xD

[caterpillar79]

I'm sorry, KSP. I hope you'll get through with this soon.