[janetaylor]

Hi, I'm new, here,

I am a counselor. Of young age (standard school) I was involved
active in the field of counseling. Here I try to share some of the
you are all related to the relationship among husband and wife that I read.

In this forum, I have found too many problems about relationship husband and wife. And many
of wives had complain about their husbands cheating them about secrets affair with other women.

Well, I have found a connection with men and their hormone. From what
I read in that article, the man has a special hormone which is known testosterone. This
hormone is responsible for providing the nature of manhood to someone like growth
mustache, beard, a rough voice, a body posture and nature are attracted to
women.

However, the quantity of this hormone is sometimes increased and sometimes decreased. The
highest hormone peak occurs at the age of early 20's, early 40's and early 60's.
In short you can see the table below:

early 20's - high-testosterone = higher interest in women
early 30's - Low testosterone = less interest to women
early 40's - high-testosterone = higher interest in women
early 50's- Low testosterone = low interest to women
early 60's- high-testosterone = higher interest in women

so I had made a summary of the hormone testosterone with an interest in
women. You must do not surprised if your husband has an affair outside
although his age has reached 60 years. It all about hormone content the highest testosterone
quantities.

I hope it can help all the wives out there to be more open minded
and ready to face the possibility what will happen. With this knowledge you will be able to

control your emotions and your children.

[WildChild]

I'm sorry but I think this is nonsense. A man will be faithful to his marriage or not based on his characture rather than his hormones. Being "open minded" is not a solution. Nor is a woman controlling her emotions to what end? To accept unacceptable behavior?
No

[LanaBear]

I'm sorry but I think this is nonsense. A man will be faithful to his marriage or not based on his characture rather than his hormones. Being "open minded" is not a solution. Nor is a woman controlling her emotions to what end? To accept unacceptable behavior?
No

Couldn't agree with you more... The whole post seems to be a rather ridiculous notion.

[janetaylor]

in that article also mention that "article published base on their research and survey among 20,000 people in different races, culture, skin color...etc". I just share with you guys what i have read. If it's informative to us, we take it in positive ways.

[Mes T]

I too think this is nonsense. I don't see anything that suggests higher testosterone levels = higher possibility of cheating. Besides, there are just as many women who cheat as men. And what should we blame that on, then? Higher levels of... estrogen?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Welcome to the Forum jane.

It seems you have an interesting journey in life, gaining knowledge, viewing research and surveys and your welcome to offer what you found..

What the ladies are saying above though, let's look at it logically, there are zillions of human beings on this planet and scientists are still trying to work out so many things, connect the dots, so to speak, 20,000 is not a lot but obviously they concluded the answers as you wrote from those people's replies

Yet, I just spent 15 mins reading myself, reports after you started this thread and they all basically (scientists), were stating men peak at 18 - 22, women don't usually let go of their inhibitions until around 30, they seem to still feel shy about sex, in short and that men of that age, aren't so keen to experiement and learn, enjoy sex as much...

But, if you read the threads/posts on this Forum, we can do our own data research (if we had the time) and we would conclude that from what we read, that "both" men and women are missing out, one partner is sexual and the other is non-sexual. I would say therefore, that mis-matched partners can play a role.

Also, people become complacent, in life.. Not many people "work" together, to make a relationship, it's usually one, but not both and as such, one changes.. And, with that, they see "friendship" more than "sex". which is sad, because the other partner is hurting.

On this Forum it's a mixture of men and women... And, on this Forum, alot of women are missing out, certainly but alot, nearly really every single male that joins here is missing out and writes in that manner.

So how can the theory prove if you view the threads here, that the men are not sexual? It's certainly not the case on this Forum.

And, women being more sexual at 30+? But nothing pertaining to after 40, or 50 or 60, or 70, even if you google and locate all the research conducted, they fall short at 30 for women..

I think what you have written is great that you have been part of research and thought it may help our readers...

We, as women, however, do not have to accept infidelity.. We as women do not have to accept, non communication, non, togetherness to make both partners happy sexually, so we as women do not and will not accept that his libido is down, therefore, he is allowed to cheat, it's nature, because that's not on..

Having said that there are, again, many threads I have read over the past few years on "affairs" by women. They actually are searching for love, not sex.. However, point being, they end up not accepting, what they are doing, to themselves.. But the men are married, they are in their 30's and 40's, having a wife and taking a mistress, so can you see therefore, yet again, (google studies on that), how many men in their 30's and 40's have a high, very high sex drive?

I am 47, new relationship, so is he, he has a great sex drive and I couldn't have a higher one if I tried.

So how do we fit in to those studies? We don't... He doesn't.

But certainly, it happens but I think more so because, of bad relationships, not willing to give, baggage, not getting with the times, not wanting to learn, together, be adventurous...

Every successful relationship has boundries, but has also, date nights, no or little inhibitions and both are willing to keep it alive.

AND, you know what? Again we have alot of young men and women who come here asking how to be more sexual, how to have an orgasm, where as scientists are working on science, how refreshing that young men don't view it lightly anymore, they now want to please their woman.. They don't see a connection there, that things have changed...

We have disappointed men and women who are missing out.. Both, not one.. Mature in age...young in age, all ages... But there is alot, regarding men, missing out that are dying to have intimacy, and they are all ages...

It has to be that people are mis-matched, or chemistry is gone, or other factors make them no longer happy partners, therefore, the sex suffers, or they become friends and havent and don't want to work towards the success of relationships and how they become successful for life

Sad, but true.

Thank you for your sharings but I hope you can now see, that it is not age, rather, situations and we invite you to view the sex section for the past 3 years or so and see for yourself.

CW

[jns]

This is the problem with the new"science", taking a complex system and distilling it down to a single cause and then saying that cause is overwhelmingly determinate. Life has three quasi distinct stages: growing into an adult, being a working adult, and old age where heavy work may not be possible. Add on top of that having children. Having children in late teens or early twenties means they will traditionally be on their own in about 20 years, leaving the early 40s as a time of change in the family. Early 60s is a time to retire. So, therefore, this testosterone peak hits at a time when there is a transition in family status. And the situation is said to be caused by the testosterone alone?

[Hopeless Dork]

To be honest I don't understand a lick of what you are talking about... you go on to mention hormone levels than summise how men will cheat based on them. One I don't believe for a minute that those numbers accurately reflect all mens interest based on age. I also firmly believe that men that cheat will cheat even if their s.o. is 'giving it up' and pleasing them in all ways. Some guys feel entitled to eating their cake and having it to. While other guys respect their commitments and don't cheat even during times that the well has run dry.

Flaking out on commitment is a character flaw, not at all hormone driven. Some men that are older and have no natural drive, will take viagra to cheat because its what they mentally want to do. And some men with a high drive will masturbate what needs aren't being met by their S.O.

I've known women that cheated when they didn't even want sex with another man, but did it out of lonliness, not hormones. I think the hormone argument is a fairly flawed one.

[rhiannon34]

Ooooooohhhhhhh! Now it all makes sense. If a man is at the age where his testosterone is high, he will cheat and we really should just control our emotions and understand that it's just his hormones.

Well, I just read an article that said that hormone fluctuations in women in their 30's is one reason why they desire sex more at this stage in their lives. Well, I'm in my 30's. So I better start getting busy. I'll just reference that article when my bf has a problem with me cheating and I'm sure he'll understand.

[rhiannon34]

I think that using our brains, our own judgement, having morals and ethics is one of the things that makes us human and seperates us from just being hormone driven animals.