[BabyGirl]

BD is Correct as to the Basic " Consensual age" in most States. When I lived in Kentucky, it was and not sure now, but a 14 year old could be married to a 50 year old.. But with Parents Consent only.

The issue here is You are Concerned and should not have to make decisions about a Guy that has sex with you that has sex with his " Daddy".

Personally I feel you need protection from Someone who will help you thru this at 17 . You should be in School, preparing for your Graduation, Prom, College and your Happy Future.

There is some advise here that really frightens me !! Not that it is wrong advise, but that I focused on your age, more than the " How to handle it ".

My first thoughts were " She's how old, He's how old and isn't that how a lot of our "kids" get so messed up in Life ? and that is why I responded the way I did.

The adivice that has been given, Including mine is Correct for an Adult. Run, Get Out of It, Stop and Save Yourself. I may have overstepped or not read far enough, But to all other posters. Imagine this is Your 17 year old Daughter ( or Son ). Would we give the same adivise ? Or would we do our best to Save her from the situation she is in ?

Meaning Use a Condom or other Bitrh control ? I felt that was Great Advice for Any Age. But would you tell your child that and if so why ? Pretend this is your daughter/son.. Lets protect her Now and when she is 18. We can Help this young lady make proper decisions for her future.

[jns]

The adivice that has been given, Including mine is Correct for an Adult. Run, Get Out of It, Stop and Save Yourself. I may have overstepped or not read far enough, But to all other posters. Imagine this is Your 17 year old Daughter ( or Son ). Would we give the same adivise ? Or would we do our best to Save her from the situation she is in ?

If she was my daughter, I would probably not be giving advice, but rather setting my affairs in order in case I was to go to jail for my future actions. I would do my best to end this relationship in any way necessary.

However, she is not my daughter, so I am not prepared to take such action, even if I knew everything about the relationship. Too many people depend on me that I would let down. Others would not step in to fend for them.

I also know that teenagers are slow to take advice, especially if it is too far from what they want to hear. Sometimes it is best to give them the facts and let them percolate until they reach a different decision than the one they are currently entertaining.

At 17, the op has to do some critical thinking on her own. She is under the impression that her bf can be fixed. I don't think he can, at least not without superhuman effort. He is seriously screwed up. She will just get screwed up herself by being with him.

Is he going to change? Probably not, you can just read that as a no. She just has to walk away from the situation. Not call the cops, not get him in therapy, not argue with his father, walk away.

Will she do it? Will she take good advice? Not until she is ready to. In the mean time, should she continue to put herself at risk? If she is willing to take some advice, maybe she can lower her risk. Maybe she will take advice to lower her risk. Sometimes half a loaf is better than none.

[BabyGirl]

If she was my daughter, I would probably not be giving advice, but rather setting my affairs in order in case I was to go to jail for my future actions. I would do my best to end this relationship in any way necessary.

So well said JNS..

And even though not yours or my daughter, She is part of our future generation and as the old saying " It takes a Village to raise a Child" goes. We must at least try and thow a rope or life saver to those we can see drowning.

My problem is that if it was the Daddy that was drowning, the rope I would throw would have a hangmans noose on it and a Sheriff holding the other end. Sad But true on how I feel about this.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

If consentual sex in most States is 16, as it is too, here, in Australia, adoption, at the age of 17? And the adopted person, is allowed to be single and gay to adopt?

Legally, that doesn't make sense to me at all, it would not be allowed here in Australia at all..Not the fact that the person is wealthy, gay, as lets face it Elton John tried but was denied, but they child was that, a child.

So I'm sorry I'm not buying the adoption at 17. If anything, I agree with I think it was HD, "sugar daddy", whom your boyfriend calls Dad and is hiding behind "adoption" assuming you will be nieve to the whole affair and that perhaps if this is real, that he opted to do this, for financial gain and no self worth but does in deed find it grose.


Your involvement makes it bareable to him...

Again, if this is a real situation, why would you want to be part of it?

And, I also hope your ensuring condoms are used..

CW

[rcoreyus]

Is this a legal adoption or just using the word casually? Big difference!