[Texinator]

Tex?

Yes, ma'am?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

haha, see I can read that as "Tex?" are you there? And, you reply, "Yes, ma'am? what do you want?




I think, we spend our whole lives searching for "the one", "true love", "soul mate", and all that we believe that entails, only 9 only of 10 times, we are still finding ourselves, so how is it possible to find "the one"?....

Find yourself and you'll find what your searching for..

Give to one, because you "want" him/her to be that person, means you haven't found yourself and so, we question someone's intentions, thoughts, yet again....

Too deep I know but that's me....

Love yourself Gigi...

[Texinator]

It makes sense. I don't think it's too deep.

Relationships are not just about learning about the other person but also about learning about ourselves. Of course, we want every relationship to the THE one, but usually they exist to teach us a lesson. Every person that comes into our life is meant to act as a learning experience. But only once we love and understand ourselves can someone else truly love and understand us.

[WildChild]

To some degree we are all interconnected. We reach a point that we seek a connection that is deeper than our usual experience. If we are emotionally healthly that is a wonderful and good thing. If we are not emotionally healthy, if as CW says we haven't yet 'found' ourself that connection may be more needy than healthy.

[Goodgirl93]

You need to be your own best friend, Gigi. Take yourself out of the situation and read your thread as if it was another friend's problem. What advice would you give her? That's what you deserve too - only the best. Don't let the nice parts of this guy stand out over his jealous, controlling behaviour. If he is acting this way over something like FB or MS, just imagine what would happen if you two ran into a "real life" issue. He can't handle it. He's too immature. Find someone kind, loving and mature who doesn't put you through a constant cycle of anger, abuse, apology. I know this from experience and only wish that I had learned it earlier in my life. Be good to yourself.

I actually did that last night,and if i were in a friend place,looking out for me,ide tell myself to get away and leave. ty sweetie,your very kind!!!

Someone who takes an interest not only in your body but especially in your personality. Someone with whom you can connect on a deep emotional level. Someone who is willing to communicate with you in a calm and honest manner whenever any issues arise.

Well tonight....We talked and once again he turned a fight around on me and it was my fault.I hung up on him.And then i started getting messages on myspace....I wrote him a very long,wich basically i told him,i dont want to be together with him,and im tired of waiting around for him to change and for us to change,we have said things were going to get better,but he never made an attempt to change.I told him to move on,and to stop stringing me along like his puppet.

He replied back and told me he was sorry and didnt mean to make me cry all these nights,and was wondering if i wud talk more about the message tomorrow and see if we can fix it.But after today,(he seen a friend joke around on a pic comment of mine,and he replied to him cussing him out and making fun of his race) i dont think i want to be in his life.As a friend sure,but nothing more.Im done,and i actually am feeling good about it....well kinda,im getting there.

[Goodgirl93]

haha, see I can read that as "Tex?" are you there? And, you reply, "Yes, ma'am? what do you want?




I think, we spend our whole lives searching for "the one", "true love", "soul mate", and all that we believe that entails, only 9 only of 10 times, we are still finding ourselves, so how is it possible to find "the one"?....

Find yourself and you'll find what your searching for..

Give to one, because you "want" him/her to be that person, means you haven't found yourself and so, we question someone's intentions, thoughts, yet again....

Too deep I know but that's me....

Love yourself Gigi...

I know im very young and finding "the one" is highly unlikely for my age...but it would be nice just to have a steady relationship like all my friends.but somehow,i always fall for the wrong guys.Accept newhere,he was the only good one.

[Goodgirl93]

And um one major thing i left out...

I did mention that he didnt act very sexual when we were together.He is the type that is a gentleman 24/7,and my mom happened to bring up...me getting a sex toy. Well i talked to him about it,and told him i wudnt get anything too big,and ide keep it simple and whatnot,but he FLIPPED OUT.he started saying its stupid to think of getting one,and that my mother is an awful parent for considering it.We faught for two days,and he told me the thought of me using a sex toy makes him mad,because a toy can be inside me,but he cant be.I never denied sex from him,but i never asked for it,and he never even tried to do much more than kissing my neck and pulling up my shirt.

So he was being VERY controlling when it came to that,and i even told him i wouldnt get one just so he wudnt be bothered by it.

[jns]

Jealous of a sex toy, that is kind of crazy. You would think he would send you a new one every so often if you would send the old one to him.

[Goodgirl93]

I know,i never understood it either. LOL

[Texinator]

I guess he was afraid that a few inches of plastic might do a better job at pleasing Gigi than he could.