[LoveCatherine]

Why do men look at other women, when their happy and in love with their current girlfriend?
Is it just a natural thing to men to do?

And it always good looking women, i.e blonde, short dress etc.

[sourpuss]

Yes. Women do it too. Nothing wrong with noticing an attractive human being.

[Ashlee T.]

I think we all enjoy looking at things that wefind attractive, pretty, intriguing, sexy. And equally as much, we enjoy looking at things that are gross, disturbing, or shocking. I think it's just part of what makes us human.

Looking at someone, or noticing someone you find attractive is one thing. Oogling at them or nearly running into walls while you stare at them is a different story. It all depends on your guys behavior, when he's doing this, how's he doing it, etc.

Love doesn't make one blind. A lot of women will proclaim they never even LOOK at another man other than their man. But come on......lets be honest here......we all do it at some point, right? You may not cheat on your guy with him, or leave your guy for him, but that doesn't mean you won't notice him.

[WildChild]

It was explained to me as being like looking at art.
I read recently about a study done on this very thing and they found that while men look, once the passing woman is out of sight she is out of mind.
I figure the first look is free, it's the jaw dropping oogle that I object to or the repeated neck craning.

[Hopeless Dork]

I think if a man is checking out a woman in front of his significant other so obviously that SHE notices it... he's 1. Doing it wrong and 2. Being disrespectful of her. Noticing someone is attractive is natural, staring, breaking your neck, ogling, making eyes at, looking up and down at some other chick in front of your woman 1. Lets the girls you are ogling know what a dirtbag you are and 2. Makes her pity your girlfriend. 3. Gives her the feeling that she is some how more worthy of your attention than the woman you are with (yay for free ego boost for her) but does the woman you love really deserve to be made to feel forgotten about just to wink at some other chick that probably won't talk to you anyway.

A guy that is willing to do that is either lacking common sense, wants to make his gf jealous or is making it clear that his s.o. isn't the apple of his roving eye.

When I am out and about and I see a guy that is holding hands with his lady breaking his neck to look at me or letting her go ahead so he can turn around and smile or nod -- it makes me sick to my stomach. I feel like ugh , creep! And think his poor gf deserves better. I do not want to be the girl on the other side of that pity for having a douchebag boyfriend.

So yeah noticing someone is attractive, common and natural -- and if you are ALONE... taking that second look isn't going to hurt anyone, but for the sake of a happy night for all parties involved... the one with the roving eye should be discrete with their 'art appreciation' and recognize they are with someone at the time.

[Agony_Aunt]

Think about it.
If you as a woman happen to notice a really good looking guy, you will take a glance. Why? Because attractive people are eye catching.
Its natural to look. But it can be offending if your partner realises it.
But it is very hard not to look when someone or something catches your eye.
If it becomes more than this were he is basically staring at other woman you need to confront him.

[stressed]

My SO has been staring at an air hostess throughout a 45 min flight. It was embarrassing because it was a small plane with few passengers and I had no escape. I told him about it at home, but he just smiled, apologized and said he didn't notice he was doing that. Worst flight of my life. If it happens again I'll be the one embarrassing him on the plane.

It's OK to look and appreciate, but not stare when your SO is right next to you, no matter the place. And another thing: I wonder how many would stare if they were by themselves. I think that being next to their partner makes it "safer" to stare.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You say blonde with short skirts

That's a type.. And I bet you don't wear short, short skirts, or colour your hair so bleach blonde either, those ladies, feel they have to die their hair, have to wear short skirts to get attention and they are Which is a shame because they are human and probably full of love inside..

When someone goes out of their way for attention of the opposite sex, they will get it, after all it was their intention to start with...

Seeing a pretty woman, on the other hand and glancing over, even telling your SO "ohh she's so not attractive", followed by a little dig in his ribs, followed by both people laughing, is okay in my books, as I do with say Brad Pitt, to receive an answer of, "I still don't see it"...

[Hopeless Dork]

And another thing: I wonder how many would stare if they were by themselves. I think that being next to their partner makes it "safer" to stare.

Bingo, bingo, bingo. A lot of guys DO feel safer staring when they are with their S.O.... especially if the chick they are staring at is with a man... because some single guy standing around staring at some guys gf might get told off or worse.. and if the woman is alone he could come off as stalker material... so yeah I think a lot of guys do get their peepshow on under the safe umbrella of 'but but but I'm with HER... i can't be a creep... see'??!

As for me, I want to be proud of the man I am with... the man I give my heart to... for all I do to make him happy I want to walk into a room and know that no woman in there... hotter than me or not has nothing on me when it comes to him. I don't want to be made to feel like chopped liver. And as for him? For all that he does to make me happy... I want him to feel safe when he's with me that I'll never make him look like a fool... that I'll never flirt up guys on the way to the bathroom at a concert or give guys CFM eyes while hes on my arm. Its about respect to me.

[jns]

Why do men look at other women, when their happy and in love with their current girlfriend?
Is it just a natural thing to men to do?

And it always good looking women, i.e blonde, short dress etc.

It is very natural for men to look at a woman who is flaunting her looks. If the woman is dressed smartly but conservatively, many men won't do more than glance. Guys are socialized to do this from an early age by fathers, uncles, brothers, older men, older boys and male peers.

Blonde is not a hair color I will look at much, I prefer black hair.

Short skirts and dresses are intriguing for most men. I would think that the men who don't look at a short skirt on a good looking woman have low libidos or have been taught not to look. Some of them may instead look at women in longer skirts or dresses. Of course, what constitutes a good looking woman varies.