[lucybelle]

I'm thinking of making a fairly drastic move. Literally. I'm thinking of quitting my job (which means I'll renig on my scholarship/loan from school and have to pay it back instead of "working" it off) and moving down to Mexico to be with my "special friend". This isn't the first time I've thought of it.

We've only known each other for a year and a half, and most of it has been spent apart in our respective countries. I know he'd love me to, he's already been trying to find jobs for me down there!

The only reason I'd see not to, is financial reasons. I have the means to, but I'd be tight for a little while.

Can you put a price on love?

[jns]

Love always has a price. See how many couples stick together when really bad times come. See when one gets addicted, goes to jail, or gets seriously injured in an accident or war. See when one no longer has legs, or arms. Some are willing to pay a much higher price than others and maybe for some love is truly priceless.

[sourpuss]

Most relationships end over arguing over money. Or most marriages at least. If it were me, I'd stay in school and keep contact with him, visit when you can, etc. But it sounds like a huge opportunity to have a scholarship...actually it is a HUGE opportunity. So please, do not take it lightly. I think if the two of you really do love one another, he'll still be there for you when you are done with school. Love is fun and great but in this case you have to think with your head and not your heart.

[rcoreyus]

I think many people make the mistake (encouraged by Hollywood) of thinking that there is only one person in the world for them. In reality I think you could fall in love with, and spend your life happy with a great many people. Also, people seem very poor at judging what person is right for them - just look at the divorce rate.

Its unromantic, but I think practicalities are important in love.

[BabyGirl]

Besides the love factor, are you willing to give up your US citizenship ? Just like here in the USA you will have to Immigrate to Mexico legally if you plan to stay there permenantly.. Their laws are very different than ours in some aspects.

Lets say you and he don't work out,will you be stuck in a country that you may have no family or friends, employment or resources like we have in the USA ?

I am married to a Chilean National, I do not know if he is alive or not. He could not come to the USA legally as I didn't make enough money to support him for 3 years of the immigration process. I have not heard from him in over 5 years as we decided to give up on him trying to come here legally. I could have moved to Santiago Chile when we married, but even though I loved him dearly, there is no way I would every give up my USA Citizenship.

Think very hard on what you are pondering. Love may seem Priceless, but to me, being a US Citizen with all of our freedoms that many other countries do not have is much more Priceless.

[rcoreyus]

How much time have you spent with him in person?

[WildChild]

I'm thinking of making a fairly drastic move. Literally. I'm thinking of quitting my job (which means I'll renig on my scholarship/loan from school and have to pay it back instead of "working" it off) and moving down to Mexico to be with my "special friend". This isn't the first time I've thought of it.

We've only known each other for a year and a half, and most of it has been spent apart in our respective countries. I know he'd love me to, he's already been trying to find jobs for me down there!

The only reason I'd see not to, is financial reasons. I have the means to, but I'd be tight for a little while.

Can you put a price on love?

If the two you really have something, it will last until you have finished your studies. Once you have created a situation where you lose your scholarships, grants and loans, you may find it very difficult to get new ones. Your education will be with for a lifetime. Rethink this please.

[lucybelle]

Thank you everyone for your replies!

First of all let me clarify in that I have already graduated. I currently am a teacher. I have a scholarship/loan where I have to teach in my home state for 3 years. If I leave before that, I will have to pay the loan back. Otherwise, I "work" it off in 3 years.

We have spent about a total of maybe 3 weeks together. Yeah... strange right?

And finally, someone mentioned how we all think we have a soulmate. I truly don't believe that at all, and agree that there are many different people we can marry and have fun with. Right now, I think he's the one for me. But I know if it doesn't work out, I'll find someone else. They might not be better, might not be worse, they'll be right for me in a different way.

Thanks again for your replies. I think I was feeling anxious the other day... Thanks for bringing me back down to reality!

[lucybelle]

Oh and another thing about losing my citizenship. I am not planning on getting married anytime soon. This move would be temporary. I want to stay in the USA and settle down here. But I'm still young enough (24) to run around to Mexico and have fun for a while.

[sourpuss]

Have fun on your Christmas and summer breaks. Please, do not give up your scholarship, please. A month over Christmas and 3 over the summer is plenty of time to know if you really love someone and if you'd like to live where they live. But giving up a scholarship is not something to take lightly. Take it from someone who put themselves through college with student loans that will never get paid off. Please reconsider.