[sarahjane_91]

I am 19 and my Boyfriend of 11 months is 31.. big age difference I know but this is not the problem!

We have sex once a week and I want more but he is never in the mood? I guess this topic is popular but I would appreciate some advice..

I have also found porn on his laptop, but he has been honest with it so it isnt an issue..

Is this a big problem or something that will pass as we get further into the relationship?

Help please??

[brianna...]

I am also 19 so sex of course is a major part for us, but the lack of sex maybe because of him being 31 but i could be wrong, now is he a married man?? that could be a magor part in it sweetie. maybe you should talk to him about it and tell him your needs girl get down to business lol!!

[sarahjane_91]

no he's not married... we have known each other for a long time, he's my next door neighbour lol, hes living with his mom so i know hes not married or seeing anyone.. at first i thought he wanted something different when i found the porn but we talked about it and he showed me what he watched which was a variety or girls shapes and sized, i just don't know why he only wants it once a week, and i feel bad when i ask for it and i dont get it because then i feel selfish , maybe he has a low sex drive and i shouldnt be worried??

[brianna...]

Well have tried watching porn with him? maybe that could get him into it more, there is no reason why you should feel bad your a young 19 year old woman and have needs lol but no dont be worried just try to do other things to get him in the mood more

[sarahjane_91]

i asked to watch it with him but he doesnt want to we just end up laughing about it and not getting in the mood over it lol i dont know maybe things will change when we get a house together etc.. you think? need to be positive i guess or things could get worse.. thanks for replying

[chaya]

I'm also 19, new to sex and have been married for less than a month. If he would only do it once a week, I would be climbing the walls and dripping all over the floor.

You better talk this over with him before making a commitment.

[sarahjane_91]

he doesnt like talking about it, he thinks once a week is enough :/

[sarahjane_91]

also i think he thinks that sex is all i think about but if we did it more i wouldnt need to think about it as much.. i really dont know what to do, if i should just stick with the once a week and see if it changes.. i dont know HELP! please..

[chaya]

You'll have to get answers for the more experienced members than me. I couldn't tell you if he will ever change.

I do know that once a week would be intolerable for me.

[jns]

At 31 and newly married, sex once a day was the norm. It sounds like he isn't being truthful about the porn, or he does have a low sex drive, or he doesn't want the relationship to get any deeper.

Why is he living with his mom? Can he live on his own? Is your relationship with him a secret? Does he seem embarrassed to be seen with you? Has he had other girlfriends? What excuses does he give? Can he always perform?