[CHANDLERS WISH]

Sweetheart,

Isn't it a good thing that she's still wearing the ring and he still stands tall in the house, her one love..and that this kind man, accepts that, even though he married her, that your Dad, is her soulmate......no wonder she feels a form of love for him, what a nice, caring, understanding man...She's saying to your Father, I will always love you, by doing this...She's not ready herself, to let go it's a good thing...

She's not hanging on to him, she's grieving herself still... And, your not being selfish your viewing it as if he's in the house, watching over you all, and she's letting him see...Instead of, her telling him, it's your home, we love you and I'm not forgetting...just needing myself, something to help me through all of this.

You know, I don't have white witch in my signature for fun I suspect you believe in ghosts, and that's why your viewing it the way you are, instead of what I have written...Also the photos make you constantly see him when your home, then you see, the "other man"...I think you need to talk to your Mum, maybe she can make a shrine somewhere within the house that's not the main rooms, for your Dad...His place, his space, that you can all visit when you need him and so that you can resume life yourself and work through this new process...


CW

[Butterflylily]

Sweetheart,

Isn't it a good thing that she's still wearing the ring and he still stands tall in the house, her one love..and that this kind man, accepts that, even though he married her, that your Dad, is her soulmate......no wonder she feels a form of love for him, what a nice, caring, understanding man...She's saying to your Father, I will always love you, by doing this...She's not ready herself, to let go it's a good thing...

She's not hanging on to him, she's grieving herself still... And, your not being selfish your viewing it as if he's in the house, watching over you all, and she's letting him see...Instead of, her telling him, it's your home, we love you and I'm not forgetting...just needing myself, something to help me through all of this.

You know, I don't have white witch in my signature for fun I suspect you believe in ghosts, and that's why your viewing it the way you are, instead of what I have written...Also the photos make you constantly see him when your home, then you see, the "other man"...I think you need to talk to your Mum, maybe she can make a shrine somewhere within the house that's not the main rooms, for your Dad...His place, his space, that you can all visit when you need him and so that you can resume life yourself and work through this new process...


CW

hehe I saw it , I understand that she loves my father and everything you said....but do you think its wrong shes having sex while still wearing that ring?...

I loved your idea about the shrine thing, im gonna get to that soon, I really love my dad..and I miss him. It sounds like a good idea.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

It sounds fitting doesn't it

Well, how do you view sex, that, that's two people in love, bonding? And, then there is a connection from there... Without sex, are you not just friends? It is also a way to ease pain, because your being loved...

At your Mum's age in any event and being re-married....

Again, don't view it as dissing your Father, remember she may have done this, for her family and he's a kind soul, off course he cares for her and wants to express that and off course she appreciates all he is doing for "her family" but again remember, she wears your Dad's ring, he is never far from her heart or mind....

He also no longer walks this Earth but definately watches over you all, if you believe in ghosts and he was up-set ,I can bet you he'd be playing with the electricity turning it on and off.... He knows she wears his ring....he's okay ....

You know if it was your Mum? Your Dad would have turned to someone for company, as he missed her.....and she would have understood that too...

Organise the shrine including a photo of you and him together and write him letters and visit and talk to him....

Is it Christmas Day where you are?

Merry Christmas sweet...

[Butterflylily]

It sounds fitting doesn't it

Well, how do you view sex, that, that's two people in love, bonding? And, then there is a connection from there... Without sex, are you not just friends? It is also a way to ease pain, because your being loved...

At your Mum's age in any event and being re-married....

Again, don't view it as dissing your Father, remember she may have done this, for her family and he's a kind soul, off course he cares for her and wants to express that and off course she appreciates all he is doing for "her family" but again remember, she wears your Dad's ring, he is never far from her heart or mind....

He also no longer walks this Earth but definately watches over you all, if you believe in ghosts and he was up-set ,I can bet you he'd be playing with the electricity turning it on and off.... He knows she wears his ring....he's okay ....

You know if it was your Mum? Your Dad would have turned to someone for company, as he missed her.....and she would have understood that too...

Organise the shrine including a photo of you and him together and write him letters and visit and talk to him....

Is it Christmas Day where you are?

Merry Christmas sweet...

Yeah hehe, Merrry Christmas , and thanks...I just have to accept these things and mature...though I guess everyone has their own beliefs, Ill just sit down with them...and apologize. And idk what my mom will think of me but I hope she wont judge me if I dont think the same, I guess my beliefs are different,my bf/futurehusband would re-marry if I died, and for his Happiness I would accept that :").


But idk heheh maybe im weird but Its impossible for me to re-marry when I love him more than anything and I wont have any space in my heart left for anyone else, I would neevr marry someone just for money or anything,maybe Im just different, but my Biggest Pride is my fathers Mother, my grandma...


My Grandpa died and she still wears her ring, and she says shes married, she tells us stories about how she spends time with him etc...idk maybe this is why I have these beliefs...my grandma is just something else, but its Beautiful...idk I just...I see the way she is so loving to her dead husband and its really heart warming...maybe this is why Im like this, I love grandma so much and sometimes we even talk about my dad. Telling me all these stories about him. Maybe im just really romantic :P.



Thanks...Ill, be loving to my mom from now on, I just have to accept her ways and im sure as I mature ill understand more, but I hope she understands that I would never re-marry.
Anyway, Happy Holidays to everyone ^_________________^.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Ahh we have the same GrandmaSort off....

In the oldern days, that is how it was/is....That's it, we shall meet again, I will wait for you....and I think that's beautiful, I really do..My grandmother had 5 children, so she re-married and worked two jobs, he was evil, apparently...but she did it for her children, after they grew up and he died? She stayed on her own until she passed away..She told me loads of stories of Grandad, never, ever, of Joe, the man after....survival is also part of their beliefs back then, for their children..

I've always said to my fiance, you won't ever find another me, ever, but find someone....

I probably would be like you, excepting, one day, someone, always walks in and they are kind, and loving and you know in your heart no one will ever ever replace your true love, but as you have so much love to give? You end up with another partner...but like Grandma,you never ever forget, or stop loving.....

We are our own people, so we can have our own beliefs sweet, but yes, so therefore, your Mum is her own person and she also can have hers ..

CW

[Butterflylily]

Ahh we have the same GrandmaSort off....

In the oldern days, that is how it was/is....That's it, we shall meet again, I will wait for you....and I think that's beautiful, I really do..My grandmother had 5 children, so she re-married and worked two jobs, he was evil, apparently...but she did it for her children, after they grew up and he died? She stayed on her own until she passed away..She told me loads of stories of Grandad, never, ever, of Joe, the man after....survival is also part of their beliefs back then, for their children..

I've always said to my fiance, you won't ever find another me, ever, but find someone....

I probably would be like you, excepting, one day, someone, always walks in and they are kind, and loving and you know in your heart no one will ever ever replace your true love, but as you have so much love to give? You end up with another partner...but like Grandma,you never ever forget, or stop loving.....

We are our own people, so we can have our own beliefs sweet, but yes, so therefore, your Mum is her own person and she also can have hers ..


CW

Yeah, your right ,I should understand now...theres no way I would ever love anyone like I love my current lover, but im sure just how I wouldnt want him to feel so lonely and broken, he would also think the same way, because I Know how much he loves me....the thing is...he is sick...and...he acknowledge it and....

idk what im gonna do without him....now..I understand why he would sometimes try to get rid of me...its not because he doesnt love me, but because he truly does and wants me to be ok...lifes tough sometimes hehe :")

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Bet it's the You Tube story that made you realise that

Life is a gift,
Finding a soul is a gift
Making that soul not sad is a gift

But then, there has to be many souls in this World that share a gift...