[spurzzz]

"Bottom line is, he is still trying to manipulate me"

Some things never change in life, no matter how much we wish they would. $70k!! on him and he is still acting like a jerk.
Hope you get that money back soon cos I could do with a loan

One thing I find interesting is that when we are in Love with someone we think thats it we will never find that again. But then we learn to love again and again. Is that love the same? Is it more? Or less? Are we only trully able to love "theone" person in our lives and if that doesn't work out we learn to play second fiddle to it purely for procreational needs to satisfy our human instincts. We may be with someone we love, but our true heart will always be with that soulmate we lost.............

[CHANDLERS WISH]

haha, pftttttttttttttt I want to pay off one of the loans so suffer

But how do you know he/she was your soulmate? That you lost..

I liken it to this... First comes lust, if you can hold it together and not make it instant chemistry and sex, rather, get to know the person even a little, the lust/connection & respect is stronger...Then, comes bonding, excitement, enjoying the company and getting to know someone more, and then comes a form of love....How strong the connection is, equates to how much we love someone, then comes morals and core values, communication and same interests, at least as far as dining, drives go, off course movies, politics, sports may be different.

Where you love someone more? Is when they pay attention, listen to you, share your interests even if it's not theirs, hear you and are there for you but that is both ways..Then in my opinion you have found your soul mate...

You can laugh get along with someone, have great sex, feel compatible but it all breaks down if there are not the same core values, morals, support and "best friends" attitude, touching their feelings, being intune with each other.

And, sometimes it takes a lot to realise that...

He is a huge jerk But, again like I said, he changed immediately after we married....Like anyone married, you give it your all and if that still doesn't work? Don't beat yourself up, get the heck out of there and find what you deserve.

[spurzzz]

"Like anyone married, you give it your all and if that still doesn't work? Don't beat yourself up, get the heck out of there and find what you deserve."

Amen to that sister!

Thanks for your wonderful comments as per usual CW, really appreciated