[fastcar2000]

My girl friend put on Facebook on a picture of us with the capition a negative and a positive attract with a smile. I can't work out if that's sarcastic or not :S

And not long ago I proposed to my girl friend after a nice meal on sea front and went ice skating and proposed on the rink, this was 4 weeks ago and she through the ring at me.

But on Sunday I was out with her playing golf and she said Matt let's get married and kissed me? I'm totaly ****ing confused. Is this a women thing or what?

[jns]

She probably believes that you two are quite different. Is that true? I don't think she was being sarcastic. She probably threw the ring because she had not came to a decision when you suddenly proposed and she wouldn't do something that impulsive. Later she said "Matt, let's get married" and kissed you because she had came to a decision. Congratulations.

[KMonte85]

No, it is definitely NOT a woman thing. It is a girl thing. The picture comment? Well, that was probably just tongue-in-cheek.

The throwing your engagement ring in your face after you propose? That's immature and mean. I'm surprised you chose to stay with her after that.

I don't know how old you and she are, but she doesn't seem to really know what she wants. Or at least, she is incapable or understanding how serious a marriage proposal is, that she could be so flippant about getting married (both in her reaction to your proposal and then bringing up getting married a few weeks afterwards).

Be very careful choosing to make your girlfriend your wife. That's a whole other level of commitment, and given the way she's reacted to you, it doesn't seem like she's quite ready. This is serious business, and she doesn't seem capable of taking it seriously.

[Aiyana25]

I wouldnt worry about the picture comment- but whats going on re engangement?? Did it come as a real shock when you asked her?? maybe she threw the ring in shock as to avoid giving an answer? and maybe as jins said she may have come to a decision now? (good point btw)
Or maybe there is a different side to it and she may be playing with you just a bit- you mentioned age in a diff post...your gf is 19 right? Maybe she wants to marry you alright but isnt totally sure yet!! who knows, but one thing for sure tou should sit down with her and have a good heart to heart, tell her you do love her an you were serious and find out if she has the same ideas for your future together.
you sound very sweet, that proposal sounds lovely!!! WAAAAYYYYY better than mine-- haha shes a lucky girl- get your direct answer. you deserve it.

[Ashlee T.]

You've asked this woman to be your wife. Don't try to interpret her through Facebook etc. If she posts something that you don't understand, ask her.

If she's throwing her engagement ring at you now, and is prone to temper tantrums, just know that down the road it will be her wedding band she'll be throwing at you.

She needs to understand that being a drama queen isn't attractive, and is not the kind of woman you want to spend the rest of your life with. It almost sounds like she's playing games.

[fastcar2000]

I wouldnt worry about the picture comment- but whats going on re engangement?? Did it come as a real shock when you asked her?? maybe she threw the ring in shock as to avoid giving an answer? and maybe as jins said she may have come to a decision now? (good point btw)
Or maybe there is a different side to it and she may be playing with you just a bit- you mentioned age in a diff post...your gf is 19 right? Maybe she wants to marry you alright but isnt totally sure yet!! who knows, but one thing for sure tou should sit down with her and have a good heart to heart, tell her you do love her an you were serious and find out if she has the same ideas for your future together.
you sound very sweet, that proposal sounds lovely!!! WAAAAYYYYY better than mine-- haha shes a lucky girl- get your direct answer. you deserve it.

Yeah parents say Shes playing games, she get really tantramy when she doesn't want to something and raises her voice and it gets embarrissing. The problem before was the fact we were seeing to much of each other and she never saw her friends, and now since were back out I can arrange to meet her for the weekend and she will make other arangements for the saturday with her friends and be like oh well Matt you can't stop me, maybe I'm to protective and smothering her to much.

About the marriage proposal, she and I have mentioned it so manny times, that the word marriage doesn't give the same affect now, so I don't no, how or when to do it again so she takes it in. Well the day I gave her the ring, she cryed and said, this was the last thing I was thinking of. And said She said she was ending it that night and did. So I told her to keep the ring. She eventually gave me it back and said next time find a bettEr time. I just get wo confused and she can never give me a straight answer to anything. I always have to guess and read her.

Ok now to answer ur questions lol.

I would love re engagement but don't no how this time.
She was shocked and cryed
And she defently avoided giving me the answer yes

So who thinks I should ask her Friday at the pub?? Just pit it on her finger :S, because that day at the rink was awful when the bloke came out and skidded towards me with ring. And I had to tell her no at the end .
Yeah I'm 21 she's 19.
What would u discuss about our future?

[Ashlee T.]

My main question would be: Why is it that you want so badly to marry this girl?

Then: What is the rush on engagement? She's clearly not ready. And as ready as I know you think you are, I don't think you are ready either.

I fear that you have low self esteem and feel like you can't do better....therefore you're trying to seal the deal. Another thing that reinforces my opinion here is that she can act like a child, throw tantrums, boss you around...because she knows you're going to put up with it, and you do. Why?

[fastcar2000]

I spend most my life telling her I love her, I've always said I belive all women should be treated like a princess, not like a piece of meat like some men. Since I've been with her I've had her friends try and get with Me and I've never cheated, she was a beauty therpist too. and I've told her and I've pushed them away everytime. And one said I hope ur girl friend knows what she's got. And the girl begged me and was like please Matt il do anything. And tbh, I really hope my girl friend doesn't carry on being like that. Because I think the world of her and ive told her this manny Times. She told me the other day, she treats them mean and keeps them kean.

[fastcar2000]

My main question would be: Why is it that you want so badly to marry this girl?

Then: What is the rush on engagement? She's clearly not ready. And as ready as I know you think you are, I don't think you are ready either.

I fear that you have low self esteem and feel like you can't do better....therefore you're trying to seal the deal. Another thing that reinforces my opinion here is that she can act like a child, throw tantrums, boss you around...because she knows you're going to put up with it, and you do. Why?

Well I've been with her 4 years and my mate was like wtf, and u havnt even asked the question this was 30 of September when me and her went down hill. So I drove 45 miles each way and got her a ring.

I don't have that much self esteem true, I put up with it because someone told me that everyones going to mess you about, you just need to find out whose worth messing you about for, and the one u can Put up with??
And I think she is 100% gorgeous, when I look at her, anything she says nasty or wrong just disappears. She makes me melt haha.
It's really hard to say No, but I've started doing it a lot more.

[Aiyana25]

so hard to know exactly whats in her mind

Fastcar- I think maybe the way she has reacted in the past, I would be rushing into proposing again- because if she reacts badly or says no to you - do you think you could handle that? Especially in public.
Try get her alone, and tell her you have been doing alot of thinking and you understand if she has any doubts, but that you are getting mixed messages and would like to know what she is thinking.
She may be confused as she is young- you have been together since shes 15 is it? thats very young to meet the person youll spend the rest of your life with (it works for some people dont get me wrong) but others may want to experience more before they settle down,
or maybe this is not the case and she does want to settle down and marry you but she didnt like the proposal or the manner in which it was done..... or....and I hate to say it, but shes playing mind games and she wants to have her cake and eat it....
either way you need to know otherwise youll go crazy tring to figure her out.
Its not something I would ever have done to a guy I cant believe anyb ody could be cruel in that way ......
ask her and find out whats really going on..
best of luck to you hope it works out