[Chelsen]

Hi There,
I need some help with this certain issue. I know this is terrible, but in the past my bf has led me to feel a little untrustworthy towards him when I have caught him telling other girls they looked beautiful or had pretty eyes or whatever, on fb, while we were together. The first couple of years we were together I also saw he was talking to a girl he used to like about her current relationship and ours, and I just felt like that was something people in a committed relationship don't do out of respect. So, I went snooping a little today on his computer history and found that he was looking at a lot of this one girls' pictures who lives in a town he will be moving to soon (without me). I also saw that there was a deleted message either from her or sent to her that I couldn't see. I don't know if I am being paranoid but I never do these things. I have never had the motivation to search around fb looking at other guys and checking them out nor would I ever. I don't understand his reasoning behind this. I also do not want to confront him because then he will know I was snooping. Please let me know what I should do or how I should handle this situation. Thanks!

[lizzardb63]

Maybe (since he's moving away) you should have a serious conversation about where he feels the relationship is going, what his expectations are, etc. That might give him the opportunity to express things he may have been too afraid to bring up.

How often will you see him when he moves to the new city? How old are you and how long have you been together? It sounds like you've been together a couple years.

[TeenageDream]

First off, snooping is never the answer. Its not only wrong, but it could give you the wrong idea. However, the evidence you've found is kind of suspicious.

I agree with what lizzardb63 said above. Have a serious talk. Dont tell him you were snooping or "happened to see this stuff". Just say something like:
"Listen, you're moving to a new town and I'm scared. I know we've been together for __ years but I love you and ______" etc etc.

Good luck